Re: New here and confused
Again, that's something you need to figure out, independent of anything else. You need to look at your marriage, at what you get from it and what you give to it. Do they balance out? If you don't get what you need/want, what has to change? Can he do that? WILL he do that? Do you even WANT him to do that?
The most important thing to remember here, is to not look at how someone else treats you when trying to decide what to do. And really, don't even look at how someone else might treat you ("Oh, but if we divorce, I can find someone who treats me so much better!"). Look specifically at how HE treats you, and how you really want/need to be treated, and whether or not he can meet that. If you feel you really need romance in your life, figure out if he can meet that need. Talk to him, ask him to do it, tell him what you mean by romance, get counseling, whatever. And if, after doing all that, you realize he just can't meet that need, then you know that you probably want to move on.
Tell him exactly how you feel. "Honey, I love you, you're my best friend, but I need _________. And honestly, you're just not giving it to me. And it's making me feel like I want to give up on us. And I don't want to do that. You've got to work with me, and help me change things."
Also, ask him if there's anything that he wants/needs from you that he feels he's not getting. Sometimes, when we feel our needs aren't being met, we withhold from meeting their needs. It might be that he started acting like this because he felt he wasn't getting something from you, or that when he started acting like this, you started holding back, which made him act like this even more. I'm not trying to put blame for this on you, but if there IS something he wants/needs from you, giving him that might be a start to turning things around, if that's what you want.