07-30-2010, 05:57 PM
Join Date: Jul 2010
So my wife and I just had a rough conversation via text. I texted her this morning, "Hey! How are ya? Y'all out and about?" She didn't reply for three house and when she did she had a three word reply about where they went. And then followed up with "Do you really want to know how I am??????" I said yeah, I do. Cuz I care for you and I'm being thoughtful. She replied, "Don't". So I asked her what happened and she responded that she's where she was last week in counseling...she doesn't want to be married to me, she doesn't believe what I tell her, and her love bank is out of order. (I described LBs and the Love Bank to her last night)
She further said If I stay it will be only for the boys and that leaves the door open for a lot of 'not so good stuff' and then said you never seem to hear me when I say I don't want this relationship...not in the past and not now...what will it take to make you understand.
I replied that I don't want this kind of marriage, either. I want a different marriage. That's why I started therapy. That's why, I think, you stayed all this time. We both wanted something different. We both hoped it could change. We didn't have a plan. We didn't know what each other wanted or needed. And we both kept doing things that led to losing our love for one another. We have been in love. Together and in love.
She responded, We've waited too long. I've checked out. And then said No I don't, stop which I think was responding to my comment about her still having love for me.
So much for asking her tonight to sit down and consider reading some marriage builder stuff and maybe look at the questionnaires.
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