Originally Posted by badcompany
I have to step back a little to shed some light on this one. At the time when my wife was having problems with her supervisor and ended up with depression, she was prescribed some anti-depressant that seemed to work in the beginning, but after a few weeks started to build into aggressive behavior, mood swings, emotional outbursts, lack of empathy, loss of labido, over-energetic, extreme criticism of others....the exact same crap I am seeing now. It turned out the prescription was causing it(don't remember what it was exactly), and she was kinda hooked on it and the energetic and powerful feeling it gave her. I took it away several times and she kept getting more telling the doctor she lost them or whatever..
In the end it took a mini intevention with my grandmother, mother, and myself to shed light on the fact she was being a total ***** and bringing down me and everyone around her...when she didn't see it herself. Then after that she got headache's and had to slowly reduce the dosage as she had terrible withdrawl effect.
Well, back to present day. I found a bottle stashed in the bathroom drawer with the label torn off that looks like the same ones...
Its was probably prescribed..understandably...when her dad passed away and she was going thru all the stress of that along with finishing school and passing her certification tests...but now I am the scape goat once again. I am getting depressed to the point where I'm probably going to need some medication....and if I'm anything like she has been on it, we'll have a total freaking war....
Don't know what to do.....I'm to the point where I can't stay in this house another day, and don't want my daughter there either.
I read your posts, why do you constantly focus on the "what a good guy" posts instead of some by tunera? Have you done one thing to move this forward or do you spend your time here, trying to get sympathy. Furthermore, to "take" someone's antidepressants from them is foolish and downright dumb. It seems you treat your wife like a child and she treats you like an angry mother, tying into the clothes on the floor present day. Tell me, what are your faults, besides job interview ones i.e. the strong silent type? Silence can be two things, golden or deadly, it's up to you to figure out how your silence is working for you.
What do you do that she likes. I read how much you like boating and sometimes she seems to enjoy it and you drop money on lures, etc., and make all of the major financial decisions, what do you do specifically that she wants to do? You make a huge deal out of saving a 17 year old honda, well hooray for you big guy with the back problem, now, when did you take her on one mini vacation she wanted? 1800 bucks for your boat and 1000 for a new motor, a weekend away with her 500 but all I hear when reading your post is how close to perfect you are. Let's see, she went back to school, might be demanding and *****y because you don't stop patting yourself on the back long enough to really pursue making your marriage happy, she had a baby and her father died. She knows she's depressed and instead of helping her doctor and her find one which worked, you took them away, bad girl that she is, and had an intervention. duh dude, maybe she needs anti depressants and just hasn't found one of the hundreds or so that work for her, although that is probably just going to help her realize she is in the wrong marriage if you don't wake up and smell the coffee.
You seem so angry that she's mad at your parents for not planning appropriately for retirement and work more to help fund it, therefore can't babysit, yet you admit everyone is mad at your mother because she bends over backward at church to help people. Perhaps you married a version of your mother? Perhaps she's angry that your mother will help others and not her own grandchild?
Wake up and get counseling. Your wife is depressed, You are very conceited and I'm sorry if it's harsh but it is what it is. She probably needs those antidepressants and yes, some have reactions, but when you find the right one it's perfect.
You, sir, are very arrogant and pompus and I think you treat your wife like a second class citizen and want to hear what you want to hear, you want sympathy, you don't want to solve the problem.