mollywolly

It's popular in many parts of the world, and now apparently the Lifetime Network is bringing it to our TVs! At least according to what I just saw at: Lifetimes Arranged Marriage

I'm very intrigued by this. They tout it as having lower divorce rates (around 7-10%), but it just seems a bit off. I'm wondering what others think of this. Thoughts?

swedish

My grandparents' marriage was arranged and so was their daughter's (my aunts) and they never divorced. I would think it had more to do with the times (early 1900's) and religious/cultural upbringing where divorce was rare and not much of an option since the marriages were arranged by the parents and typically the only decent option for women in that culture at that time was to become a wife and mother. I don't know that it would have the success rate in this day and age in the US.

justean

i know a few doctors who i work with , many from india , pakistan etc.
and honestly when talking to them, they await there arranged marriages. and they agree with them.
a few were actually waiting to be called back home.
its actually quite fascinating hearing other ppls stories.

iceman1022

I think you should choose because love just doesnt happen. Im also not trying to be shallow but i do want a girl thats hot if im going to wake up to her every day.

But i will never knock it because it works for some people.

Thewife

Mine is an arranged marriage but we know each other since teenage through hear say and met briefly when I was 20 and DH was 28. We had strong liking for each other's personality and when the marriage proposal came in it was green signal from both of us. We live in a modern society where divorce is pretty normal and in fact most of DH's siblings have divorced once or twice. So if we want to divorce we can always do so without the fear of culture or religion. So its not the culture, religion or upbringing that holds us, its the commitment we both have made, its the love we have for each other and now our kids. soon we will be married for 10 years and we are looking forward to celebrate it.

So in my point of view, divorce rates are low in arranged marriages where culture and religion are important, if not it is not much different from love marriages, may be worst than love marriages!

Suger_belle

I wouldn't say it works for every couple. But I do have a friend who went through an arranged marriage. They got themselve registered within 2 weeks, and he is a proud father of a son now.

It may be because they don know each other and thus after getting married, they constantly get suprises (good and bad). So everyday they discover new things. Also, the fact that they cannot compare the "before marriage & after marriage" difference, their expections of each other is much lower, they can accept each other as what they are. Thus their love develops after married, and by then, they are already commited to each other.