I have had many post on this website and have gotten some great input especially from women (thanks Turnera and Sista). I am faced now with a different situation and need some advice.
My wife and I have had our disputes and differences just like any other husband/ wife duo but this one is peculiar. I was recently laid off from my job and have been in pursuit of another one...constantly emailing my resume and calling potential employers. I basically spend about 5 to 6 hours on the quest for work. I usually pay the rent and the utilities but now because I am unemployed I had to ask my wife to pick up the tabs.
Since then she has changed some. She is pregnant, understandably but her attitude towards me has been more pungent. She has been a little grouchy and poinant when it comes to finding a job.
On Wednesday, I was sitting down to eat dinner when she called out to me to ask me "What am I doing?" I told her that I was eating dinner. At that time she was online looking for work for me without me asking her. She then persist to email me a bunch of Craiglist jobs that she thinks that I would be suitable for because we are desperate for me to find employment. I am a Political Science grad on the verge of obtaining a Masters Degree.
I had already accepted a position as a custodian earlier that day. I then asked her "next time before you start to look for work for me please ask me first before you begin so I can be a part of the process." She gets upset at me and now won't talk to me. I asked her "Do you think that I don't want to find a job or think that I don't understand the urgency of employment?" She says that "any man would do whatever it takes to find employment." I have accepted a custodian's job in the meantime to make ends meet.
My question is "Ladies do you look at your husband differently if he can't find work or is unemployed?"