08-07-2010, 08:45 AM
Join Date: Aug 2010
| | Marriage vows vary greatly - don't assume
Numerous times in this forum posters have written words to the effect "that you married for better or for worse".
This is a very narrow view of marriage, based on a view found within the Catholic and undoubtedly other Christian ceremonies.
Wikipedia says on this page Marriage vows - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
There is little leeway for a bride and groom to stamp their own mark on their Catholic wedding vows. Couples tying the knot in the Roman Catholic Church will essentially make the same pledge to one another.
The customary text in English is:
I, ____, take you, ____, to be my (husband/wife). I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.
I, ____, take you, ____, for my lawful (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.
Other religions and cultures do not use these vows, I can readily point to Hindu, Islam, & Judaism. Wikipedia shows that in the Peoples Republic of China these or similar vows aren't included.
When responding to questions on these boards please don't tell us that we've sworn these vows unless you know for sure.
Divorce has been a part of most cultures that existed before Saul aka Paul, Peter and others left Jerusalem.
Ideally we meet our spouse, our soul mate, fall in love, marry, and live happily ever after, growing closer year after year. The reality is that this is a wonderful hope, but not the reality in many marriages.