Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Kansas City Metro area
Re: Can a married woman be friends with a single man?
I have single male friends, some of whom I dated in the past. I've also cut out some male friends since being with my husband because he felt disrespected by things they said or did.
Now, he's a guy that trusts me completely. I play on a pool league where I was the only girl on my team, and he had no objection to me going to my team captain's house to practice even though he was single and nobody else was at his house. I think I felt more awkward than he did, and I asked my captain to meet me in a public place after that.
Another guy, who I dated, and who I consider a valuable friend, has never met my husband. We talk about getting us all together, etc. and my guy's not real comfortable with the idea, but has agreed. It still hasn't happened. But I've visited my friend once at his house, and once in a restaurant, in the two years since I've been with my husband, and we talk on the phone once a month or so.
However, out of respect for my husband, I would put the brakes on "hanging out" regularly without him, and I certainly wouldn't talk about marital problems because of the conflict of interest potential.
If I didn't uphold those boundaries, I can't imagine him continuing to trust me, and I'd lose a lot of my "freedoms" in the process.