Re: Jealous of my husband's past relationships
I do not see a time line that this happened over.
You have every reason to be concerned and jealous..
At the beginning of our relationship, he talked of his ex girlfriend in a way that made me believe he was still in love with her (which, he now assures me, wasn't true - --RED FLAG
He had also had a one-night stand, which is against my values. ---RED FLAG
And, he had a female "best friend" eight months into our relationship that he was emotionally attached to, and they met for coffees twice a week, she called him all the time etc. --- RED FLAG
He wanted to date her years ago; she didn't want him but in the end changed her mind (the latter I found out just a little while ago). ---RED FLAG
I know he didn't cheat on me,---ARE YOU SURE BECAUSE HE SAID SO ,, REALLY
My hubby has changed a lot since the beginnings of our relationship, he is a perfect husband now.--- NOT SO
This is not a jealously issue this is a trust issue, you do not trust him and he has done everything to prove to you that he cannot be trusted...
How do you resolve this..
As I have written above sit with him, tell him he has not given you reason to trust him. Ask him what is he going to do to prove he can be trusted. If he is a mature loving husband who respects you and wants you in his life then he will behave positively to allay your concerns.
If not he will "give you lip", make comments, push back, say inappropriate things, etc.. You then know where you stand and I assure you he is or will be playing around in the future.
Try this approach first if you need help thereafter post again.