pinkprincess

HI
I have been married to my wonderful husband for just over a year now and he is every thing any girl dreams about and i am happy with him however we have well i have one big problem which could potentially cause some stress and heart ace...

To start from the start i i was in a previous relationship for 4 years with a man who cheated on me with a stripper and about 4 other girls when i was pregnant ( well stripper when i was pregnant and 4 after) and naturally i have now got security issues, the other aspect of this problem is that right up untill that time (not to sound up myself) but i have always been complemented on my looks , however since then i have had 2 little girls and things have gone a bit well not so hot ... and i have lost a great deal of confidence... we still have great sex but i am a whole lot more aware that i dont look hot any more ( i am not huge but just the normal things that come with post pregnacy...

Before we had our 2nd daughter my we had talk and he promised me that if i was unhappy after i could have breast implants but now that it has happened and i have mentioned that i do feel i want them to make myself feel more beautiful and confident, he tells me i am shallow .....so this is where the problem lies .... i dont know how to avoid reststance towards him, because he just doesnt get it


any thoughts would be greatly appriciated on how to deal with this

slickplant35

Let me say that if you want to do something for yourself then you go ahead and do it. He should back you on your decision. In life you have to care about yourself, yes care what he says but he should understand that if you feel better about yourself your marriage will be better too.

GAsoccerman

Before you go the implant route...

What size is your chest? if anything over a 34C, I would recommend a "lift"

I would first highly recommend....

A good diet, not a crash diet, but a diet that involves eating 5-6 small meals a day, healthy foods, not junk food or fast food, no soda.....good foods.

I would also recommend a good work out program, Especially weights and cardio. do 3 days of Cardio and 2 strength training. I recommend the book. "the new rules to lifting for women" great book if available in NZ.

Now I would diet and workout for at least a year before any surgery, it takes a long time for the "body" to kick in and see results, throw away the scale, go by Mirror appearance only, because muscle weighs more then fat. You will not "bulk up" only steroids will do that, so have no worries.

After getting your body in the best possible shape, then you can decide if you want Implants/lift or a tummy tuck and minimize the work has to be done, they have a thing called "a mommy makeover" my wife would like to get one.

I would seriously recommend exercising and eating healthier as a start.

You will notice you feel better and have more energy, plus it helps when other men notice you as well. I LOVE a women that is exercising and working out, because it shows me she cares and has self confidence.

Best of luck, I think surgery is the last option to go.

kristamancini

Hi Pink Princess- Before you go under the knife to make changes to your body, I HIGHLY recommend trying to feel good about your body by going on a good exercise routine, developing a healthy eating routine, etc. You will be surprised how good you can feel about yourself just by exercising and eating right.

I'm not against plastic surgery, I just think far too many women are going that route as like "the easy way out" instead of doing what it really takes to get in shape and feel good about themselves naturally.

I had breast implants for 5 years, and I would discourage any woman from getting them. You can read my story about my nightmare with implants at Truth About Breast Implants, just click on "our stories," then "krista." You can also read lots of other women's stories there by clicking on "the face behind implant illness." I also blog at www.beautyandthebreast.org, where we talk about breast implants in the context of everything. I hope you will come visit us and see what we have to say. I think you will soon find out that breast implants simply aren't worth it.

I'm not trying to scare you, just give you the other side of breast implants, that you don't hear about much. I know there are THOUSANDS of women (including me) who would love to be in your shoes, have their health, never had implants.

I wish you all the luck in the world with your decision. I bet you are still absolutely gorgeous!!

~Krista

pinkprincess

Thanks for all the advise.... an answer to your question i am a size 12B so nothing special in comparision to 12DD before i had children.... Krista i will def be reading your site as i realise its not a thing to go into lightly... but at the same time no matter how much i work out and eat right my old breasts will never come back which for me is very depressing...

kristamancini

PinkPrincess- Let me know if you ever want to talk. My email address is truthaboutbreastimplants@yahoo.com. I have a lot of women/girls that email me who are in your position and just want to talk. I try my best to be understanding and keep an open mind. I know it is not easy being a woman. A lot of my girlfriends are in the market for implants (a lot are new mommy's like you) and I try to just give them reasons for getting a lift instead...only ONE surgery, not MANY (like with implants,) no foreign objects in the bod, no possible health problems, etc.
Good luck to you, I'd be happy to talk anytime.
~Krista