Rebounders........
I was just curious as to how many here that read and post on this forum are "Rebounders" those who fall in love just after a divorce and get married. Are you still married and happy? I know it will take me a while to ever trust someone again, especially if they are just divorced.
I was married to one for 7 years and was asked by a counselor "What took you so long to get out of the relationship?" after describing the mental abuse that seemed to have grown worse with every passing year. We met at work before her divorce and became friends but never fooled around. I would never fool around with a married person. I just think it's wrong period. After her divorce we went out a few times and things seemed to click. She asked me to marry her. I told her I would but I would like to wait one year to see if I'm who she really wants to spend the rest of her life with. She said she knew I was the one and the next thing I know we are in Vegas saying "I do".
It would really feel good to describe in detail everything that went on but as we all know there are two sides to every story. I will however give a couple of examples of it.
She had 2 girls from her first husband and I accepted them into my life as though they were my own and treated them as such.
When they went to dance competitions I was told it was for "parents and family only and I was neither one to them". That one really hurt, but it didn't change the way I felt towards them. It did change the way I felt towards her though.
I was told not to call or talk with her brother who lived closest to us because that was her family and not mine.
I was told I was not making enough money and should get a second job. I did and when I went to give her the proceeds from that job she told me to keep my money, she didn't need anything from me. I promptly quit working 2 jobs and was again criticized for doing so. I just couldn't seem to win with her.
I'm no saint and I know that I can tune someone out if they annoy me enough so I will take part of the blame for us getting a dissolution but I still have to cope with the fact that I really feel I was used by her for all that time.
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