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My husband and I have been married for 3 years and we have been thru hell. We got married when i was 17 and he was 19. Our marriage started out fine but the he got hurt and was off work for over a year and then he cheated. i tried ot get over it and then almost a year after i cheated on him. It was a mistake and now its a year later and our marriage is still not right. Do any of you have any advice for us? I am getting desprete. We want to start a familiy but we refuse to until things get better.

draconis

Good for you to make sure the children will be in a stable household.

The best advice I can give is communications. It seems the marriage has a lot of baggage and until it is in the open and being worked on it will never be fixed.

Do the two of you "date" still?

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Dancing Nancie

First I want to commend you for refusing to bring a child into that relationship. It shows a lot of maturity to do that. A lot of people in your situation would hope a child would make everything better.

Cheating is something that you can get over I believe. Some would say otherwise. First I think you both need to sit and decide if the marriage is something you want to work out. If you both do, I would seek out a counselor. You both will need to be open and honest with each other. Nothing but time and effort will see whether or not it is going to work.

Have you talked about working it out?