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I had posted about my husband and I going through a rough patch after 17 years of marriage. I wanted to say things were going much better. Obviously it takes time when you have drifted apart but I think we are on the right road and on it together. I look back and I think my husband has been the "giver" more so than me. He always does sweet, thoughtful, spontaneous things. I do so sometimes but not nearly like he does. After our second child I think I just got overwhelmed and too focused on the kids (I know that sounds like you can't but 100% of free time was about the kids, no time left for the parents). I think I also got a bit depressed because there was no time for me....not recognizing no time for him either. I was grouchy a lot and a workaholic. In two short weeks, I put work on the backburner (guess what no one hardly noticed and I still have a job!), kids get a lot of attention but not all of it and I changed my attitude to positive, also focused on eating right and exercise. In that amount of time I feel so much better (dropped 12 pounds too) I have always been in shape and honestly not that far out right now but enough to keep me from being confident, especially when he's in the best shape of his life and I think in the middle of a midlife criss. Today we had a little us time this morning which was wonderful (felt like we were in the brand new stages of our relationship) and then spent the remainder of the day with the kids. Tonight he went night fishing with a friend. I see a different man, a happy one. I do have this insecure feeling, I mean you can never be inside someone's head he seems happy and he is returning the affection and now initiating it. He does love spontaneity and I am a creature of habit so I've been trying to break that. Its been fun too. In fact I have always wanted my upper ear pierced and out of the blue, I went to the piercing place and had FOUR earings put in. This is not me, I'd have to think about it for months, but I just did it and four times. I texted him from the place and he didn't even believe me. I think he loved the spontaneity. Honestly I think I was becoming boring....Anyway, all that I know to do is to keep down this road it seems to be the right path, I am happy, and he sure seems happier. I'd love to hear from anyone on spontaneous things they do for their spouse especially the men, what do you like your wives to do to surprise you?