blackeyedsusan37

I have been married, this is my second and his third, since November 10, 2007. I love George with all my heart and soul. I knew from the beginning that he was it for me. Here is the thing, when we first got together, I was dating him as well as another guy. He was Navy and away so I thought I could get away with it. I fell in love with George but liked "having my cake and eating it too". Eventually, each found out about the other and after alot of begging and apologizing, George and I worked it out and decided to get married. During out courtship, one of his friends was texting me and calling me and it was sexual in nature. Nothing ever happened. I am an extremele flirtatious person by nature. The texting and calling has stopped, we are not llonger friends, as well as with the other guy's girlfriend of 8 years. NOw everytime, we fight or argue or anything bad, George throws all this in my face.
A few weeks ago, we were at a bike rally, we ride Harleys of course. During the rally, a guy grabbed me and tried to kiss me. I grabbed his hand before he could touch my breast and kissed the guy on the cheek, just to get rid of him. My husband is convinced that I did and have been cheating on him. I have not and never would. After this happened, George moved out for 2 weeks, he is home now but very distant and says he doesnt care. We started having sex again yesterday and it is SO confusing. He wont even tell me that he lovse me.
In addition to all this, I have bi-polar and one of my "things" is spending money (writing checks even if we dont have the money for it) It caused us to file Chapter 13. George is not blameless in all this, he likes to play the numbers and scratch offs. I did lie in the past to cover up my spending which also made George think I was cheating.
My question is, how do I convince him that I am not and have not cheated and only want to be with him? I have also promised to stop spending money. I know the truth but how do I convince him of this.

Roullette

thats the same with my "true love". i cheated an she came back... twice...Now its the 3rd time and she has a baby.
any ways.

YOU have to show that you love him. you might wanna try to stop being flirty all together.. i mean you really only need that if your single.

and the fighting thing with him throwing all that in your face. those are scars in his heart which he knows its going to make you feel bad.. also gives him the upper hand in the argument.

nothing is really going to make things better over night thats for damn sure.. only time will make things better.


the bi-polar thing i dont know what to say to that. thats something your more used to then a majority of people here im sure.

how long was the cheating goin on for in the begging?

michzz

It won't help your cause if you minimize what you have done that hurts your husband.

Why are you flirting with anyone at all at this point?

And writing bad checks?

Are you so sure that your bipolar troubles are not coloring your perceptions of what goes on in your life compared to how your husband sees it?

Your willingness to be with another man while also with your current husband indicates a sneaky side that must be eating at your husband even now.

Why? Because he sees some of the same patterns in you combined with his own insecurities.

I suggest you work on refocusing your attentions on your marriage and making sure your bipolar tendencies are in check.
are you medicated for this?

Also, maybe you ought to avoid the crazier harley gatherings for awhile.

blackeyedsusan37

Since this happened, I have not left my home or gone anywhere with any of my friends. I only go places with my children, siblings, or parents. I have quit drinking and am taking my medicines as prescribed.
I FLIRTED BUT DID NOT CHEAT!!! NOTHING EVER HAPPENED. WHY CANT ANYONE SEE THAT? How can I get my husband past this?