09-12-2010, 06:48 AM
Join Date: Jul 2010
| | Re: lazy and disgusting.
Originally Posted by bluebutterfly20
Hey everyone.. I'm new to the site. I joined because I just feel like I have no one left in my life. I've given up all of my friends because my partner would always make me feel guilty about talking to people. I just need advice and direction. In a lot of ways my partner seems like a great guy.. He's handsome and charismatic, but the downside is he's somewhat of an Alpha Male and wants to be the leader of all situations and is very egotistical. The biggest problem in our relationship now is just ridiculous. I'm not the neatest person in the world, but I know I'm definitely not a slob either. I keep the house very clean, however, every once in a while I do tend to sometimes leave my clothes on the floor. For some reason he tends to hold this against me as thought this is the biggest flaw anyone could have. He makes me feel like a horrible disgusting person for doing this. Although, he sometimes eats in our room and leaves dishes and won't take them to the kitchen. I always pick up after him. I even waited 3 days to pick up the dishes just to see how long he would go not putting them away. His trucks are dirty he never washes them. It just bothers me how he can completely make me feel like garbage over this. He called me lazy and disgusting. I have a 3 and a 5 year old and I'm always cleaning and doing laundry. I feel like I'm trying to do my best and keep the house immaculate so he doesn't complain, but no matter what I do there's always something that's not good enough. There's no credit. And when I cry, instead of apologizing he just won't back down on his opinion. I'm to the point of not being able to grin and bear it anymore!
He sounds nasty and controlling.
You need to sit down and think long and hard about what you want to do with your life, how you want to live it, and where he fits into all that.
I can guess being a good mother to your children would be the top of your list. Just remember that they see the way he treats you, they take it all in. One day, they'll start treating you like dirt too, because the strong caretaker does it, they'll learn to do it as a survival skill.