Re: Am I being controlled?
Yes, you're being controlled and you're partly to blame because you've permitted this abuse for so long. If she has a bad reaction every time you spend a few nickles, this is an easy fix. Open another account and deposit only what's needed for bills in the joint account. She'll get over it. If you don't want to "have" to call her when you leave work or get home, just stop. What's she gonna do? Have a hissy fit? Nobody has ever died from one. If you want to go run, walk, to the gym, to a bar, to a strip club, or climb a tree buck naked with your butt painted floursecent orange, you're an adult. Just do it. She's not really a warden and there are no real bars on your house and no real handcuffs on your wrists. The only control she has over you is that which you willingly give her. If she blocks your exit, you can go around her, through her, or take a chain saw and create a new exit. She's not your boss. She only thinks she is.