Brand new and could use outside opinion
Have been with my wife for 10 years and have one child who is 5. A little background before I get to the problem I'm having. After the birth of our child she went through PPD and it was very hard to help with that. My wife is very proud and it was difficult to get her the help she needed/wanted. Within the last year she has found friends online, through forums, that have helped her come out of her shell. This has been a wonderful breakthrough and I couldn't be happier for all of us. The problem I have is that I feel that she spends too much time on her computer, or better yet online with a gay male friend that she has met who lives halfway across the world. I have absolutely NO problem with him because he really has helped my wife, and I think they really are kindred spirits. I've been having feelings of jealousy, and I think they are directed at the fact that she is getting fulfillment from somewhere else besides her family. There is no problem with having friends and making connections, that's something that makes life wonderful, but when it comes at the cost of the family around you is what I'm having a hard time getting across to her. I work all day and she is a stay at home mom. So while I'm out working and providing, I'd expect a little in return. Lately she has been neglecting house work and our little one. Maybe I expect too much, maybe my wants are unrealistic. I'm very confused on how to get through to her and make her realize the toll it's taking on me. This probably isn't a good synopsis of our problems, one sided accounts never are. Just needed a second opinion.
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