NotJaded

My husband of 7-months doesn't love me. He told me he feels distant from me because, a while back, I didn't properly empathize with him, and now he feels he can't share things with me. Please understand why it was so hard to hear him out and just empathize, when he would keep telling me how hard his adjustment is to our marriage, our kids (mine from a previous marriage), etc. and how other couples have it so much easier. Our marriage was new; I didn't feel secure in it.
Now, months later, I really don't. I really feel I lost his love because I didn't empathize enough. It's so hard to smile now... I feel guilty, and at the same time, angry at him that he can't be man enough to move past it...

hbvitela

I have hit almost the same situation. Why is it that men can be mad at us forever, but when they make us mad they're mad all over again at US? Is there ever a moment we can share our feelings without being scrutinized by our men?

credamdóchasgra

Sometimes it does seem like my husband can dish it out but can't take it too, or that he gets so mad at me for the exact thing he does himself, and doesn't see when he does it himself.
When he does that, I just try to be MORE aware than he is, take a deep breath, and try to keep from getting emotional myself.
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jimrich

My husband of 7-months doesn't love me. He told me he feels distant from me because, a while back, I didn't properly empathize with him, and now he feels he can't share things with me.
.... So now, how do either of you plan to overcome that hurt and get back to good communication, understanding, empathy and friendship?

Please understand why it was so hard to hear him out and just empathize, when he would keep telling me how hard his adjustment is to our marriage, our kids (mine from a previous marriage), etc. and how other couples have it so much easier. Our marriage was new; I didn't feel secure in it.
... Some good relationship knowledge and skills would have and still can help both of you to get straight with each other.


Now, months later, I really don't. I really feel I lost his love because I didn't empathize enough.
... Isn't it possible to apologize and start over on a better footing?

It's so hard to smile now... I feel guilty, and at the same time, angry at him that he can't be man enough to move past it.
.... How about getting some marriage counseling or relationship books and LEARN HOW to make a good relationship so you kids will have good parental role models to learn from? Your kids need and deserve the best role models possible. HELP THEM by learning how to relate better!