Won't commit to stay or to leave.

trying2cope · 07-09-2008, 03:51 PM

I am stuck between and rock and a hard place. My husband left and now he won't commit to work on the marriage, but he also won't commit to getting a divorce. He knows that I don't believe in divorce and will do everything possible (especially for the sake of our son) to make our marriage work. He brings one outfit to the house at a time because he said it would be too hard for him to move out a second time. I know he needs time to figure things out, but how long can a person live in this limbo without exploding?

hitrockbottom · 07-09-2008, 07:48 PM

I have been wandering the same thing...my wife is in limbo on whether she wants to stay in our marriage or not

draconis · 07-09-2008, 09:26 PM

How do I cope with my husband leaving?

This is an important part of the puzzle for most people to comment on your situation if they haven't kept up.

As for your husband bringing stuff piece at a time home, atleast he is testing the waters.

I think you will be best served not focusing on your husband but rather healing yourself.

draconis

trying2cope · 07-09-2008, 11:17 PM

Unfortunately, I think this is common and they only thing to do is wait and be patient. My question is how do I long wait....at this point my answer is as long as it takes. My son deserves that. My problem is that I am starting to feel like I don't want him back anymore. The more he hurts me (by being disrespectful), the harder it will be for us to get things back.