ivebenblind

I'm new here and need help desperately. My wife is tired of me and says she's done. We've argued before and she's said the same thing before, but I know this time it's probably the final straw... But, I can't quit, I love her too much. We've been married almost 11 years and have 3 great kids.

I've made promises before to change and haven't kept them. I've been a procrastinator and she hasn't been getting the appreciation she really deserves from. Special occasions, birthdays, etc have gone by without me 'really' providing much in the way of special attention.

I asked if she would go to counseling with me and she says she'll go to a couple sessions and that's it. What is lacking is passion and romance (from me) and she feels I don't care. My intentions have always been good, but you know what they say about intentions.... I just have failed in the delivery.

I need to get off my rear and show her what she really means to me. I'm feeling like a real horses ass, which is the least I deserve.

Is there anyone that has been in my position and turned this around? I really need help, I feel I still have the slightest sliver of a chance, but my thoughts have been so cluttered, I wouldn't know a good idea if it slapped me in the face. Any ideas?

Missy

You cant procrastinate in marriage. this is what has caused the issue. Counseling is a good start, but you really need to show her you are serious. Actions speak louder than words. My husband and I have fallen into ruts and the daily routine. I mean with jobs, kids, activities, chores often times we forget why we fell in love. It starts simple enough. Plan a date for just the two of you. Get a babysitter if needed and take her out. It doesnt have to be anything fancy you could take her to a nice place that you can sit for hours and talk. Have prepared the things you love about your marriage and how you appreciate her. Then discuss what she feels could make it better. Remember there is some long history here so you cannot get upset but rather listen objectively and show active interest in what can change. This really is step one, but the biggest key to this step is how you follow through afterwards.
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