Re: How do i make husband stop calling me insulting names when he's mad?
you have to remember in the "heat of the moment" anything can be said, out of anger, that is not an excuse, and it can hurt, but, alot of times humans dont know how to express certain anger, so they use cuss works.. imagine this, if you can..
When you say the "F" word, how does your mouth feel? hard and tight right? Well, when you are angry, usually, your mouth ( along with other parts of the body) are tense and tight too.. so, those words are forced out? does that make sense?
The thing I learned with my hubby is that the "words" he uses when are just that, words, and are expressing his anger, NOT the way he feels about you? Does that make sense?
In our relationship, ( we have been married for 8 yrs and 7 months), we use words pretty loosely around here, IE, when i am on my cycle he calls me a "*****" or "Wench" i know when he says that he is reacting to what i am going thru, NOT me as a person.. the "cycle" is making me one.
I hope this all makes some sort of sense..
Of course, i also grew up in a pretty open family and those words were used alot, even in everyday talk, was i offended.. NOPE, because, they are WORDS, they are not to be taken personal.
*IF* it were me, i would try to pin point when he uses those words? Like if you are on your cycle and screaming in pain due to a cramp, then he is explaining what you are going thru not you.