07-19-2008, 04:41 PM
Join Date: May 2008
Location: south wales. uk
| | Re: The Struggle
its called life. i really dont think you are to different to the rest of us. i am being honest here, but i think we think to much. we over evaluate ourselves to much , we expect to much of ourselves or feel others expect to much of us. thats the rollercoaster.
why dont you just be yourself.
i have through the communiation with my hubby, learnt about his male behaviour. i used to mull his reactions over and over.
i used to think there was tension , when he wouldnt speak. he would tell me there is no tension , that i look for things and i probably did. but i changed my perception and trained my brain to his acts.
believe me i now have a better , more peaceful existence with him and we actually talk more. i rarely have moments when i think
"oh my god, hes quiet , what have i done. " but i have done nothing, there is nothing to talk about its as simple as.
i agree i could talk for wales. but i cant talk , when there simply is nothing to talk about. its just quiet time.
tell me a person that doesnt have your feelings. its just how ppl deal with them that makes the difference.
dont make things what they arent. dont make a mountain out of a mole hill.
except your feelings and accept things for what they were. that on good days there good, on bad days, your sullen and moody. give eachother space. after youve had time out, have a gentle talk.