Re: My wife wants to move to another state against my will
wow that is hard. and very difficult to be in.
Who's idea was it to move to OR or have you always been there? I can kind of see her point tho, in retrospect. She only has you and her child there. Some say that is enough, but, those who were raised around their families and are close it is hard to do. I remember when my mom moved from a country town pop less than 100 ( YES 100 PEOPLE in the whole town) she married my father and he was stationed Over seas, she had to move, she had not choice in the matter. she lived over seas for a few years, and then came back to the states. At first it was hard for her, she had NO FAMILY but my dad and us 2 kids, but over time, she got use to being away from family. I guess it all depends on how your wife was raised.
I always say "put the shoe on the other foot" *IF* you asked her to move to OR and leave her family behind ( not sure if that is the case, just guessing?), then of course, she would think that it is OK for her to do the same to you. Fair? of course not, but, you have got to come to some kind of agreement between the 2 of you. I dont think she *MEANS* the big "D", because that would be childish on her part to say that.
My hubby has his mom and dad living in WS and no one really here where we live now, i have my dad here ( NOT A GOOD THING but, we live 40 miles from him), anyways, my mom lives in another state and i see her as often as i can. Families do not always have to live by their parents/kids. YES you love your kids, and probably would do anything to see them. But, would it hurt to move to where she wanted and YOu do the traveling? like she does?
I guess the point is, is that this is something you need to work out some sort of plan. maybe move in the middle of the some how?? i know that sounds silly, but, it just may work. Put up a cork board and throw a dart ( hubby and i have done this and it is fun to think where we would land), see what happens.
there has to be something that can come of this. Good luck and let us know what happens.