Re: Selfless' Genes Attract Mates
People are more selfish now, that's why there are more unhappy marriages and unhappy people.
When we give, I know we expect reciprocation. But the best way to encourage us to be more giving is not to have any expectation, then we won't be disappointed if we don't receive. We won't feel hurt if we don't receive.
But people in general, they will reciprocate, maybe not in the way you want, but they are happy for what you have done for them, they know it, they will reciprocate in their way.
For my case, both of my husband and I are giving people, so it makes our marriage easy. We both give and receive. We both try very hard to understand each other's needs.
With my family, I have been the one who is giving after I was 17. I feel bad that they don't call me or send me emails, the only way I comfort myself is: 1, I fulfill my responsibility as being a daughter, I should give my parents a better life now they are old and sick. 2, my brother and sister, they are always happy to receive my phone calls and visits, they want to listen to my voice, they miss my phone calls, when I visit them, they are happy to see me.
My friends, I have stopped attending meetings in an religious organization, all of my acquaintances are there. When everything was still fine, I know I had been a generous person, there is nothing they can complain about me. They miss me.
For all the forums I go to, I have always been giving, I try to bring smiles to people, I write funny stuff and try to make people laugh.
Now if I go back and check my message box, I often receive messages asking me to go back there often and post positive articles.
Maybe it is in my nature to give.
I am happy about TAM because I see a lot of people who are self-sacrificing here. I see a team on TAM. It makes this forum more appealing to me!