hadenough

Ok bear with me I am new to this . Basically I have been married for 11 years and now separating finally from my husband . The marriage was an arranged one but we both had the choice whether to marry each other or not . These 11 years I have found it to be a real struggle with his family , even though we do not live with the inlaws they have always dictated to me how I should live including what clothes I should wear. My husband through all this has always supported them , I just thought maybe it was me always in the wrong and taking them the wrong , this year however call it strength or what , I reached the end of my threshold , and told them to butt out , this was taken the wrong way and my husband still never supported me. I had an etopic pregnancy and that time I remember all the nasty things his mum said to me and every time i see her my lood boils.
My parents told me to work it at it , but now I have not the strength or patience to be honest to work at something that I have no interest in . Finally we are going through separation , but my husband has said not until u have found a job so that u can support yourself that I will move out. So now I am looking but feel that I am staring at 4 walls and no conversation when he is at home . We have 2 beautiful daughters and I want to make the separation how ever to a smooth process.
I sometimes look at him and think please just go I do not want you here , but I am not the type to tell the bloke just go please.
I want to hear from some of u that have been through the same process just to help me .
thanks

justean

why arent you the type to tell him to go-
you dont want him there.
my hubby and i split in april 08 and although circumstances prevailed. i kicked him out.
he stayed at his mothers whilst we needed to cool down.
tell him u both need the space.
if he prefers his parents , then he wont mind living with them or them taking in their son.
if he is a good father. he wil see his children often.
if your children are or when they go to school, you can get a job whilst they are in school.
in april my hubby and i actually gave our children the choice of when they saw their father.
believe it or not i actually enjoyed my time . i realised how much they actually get away with, when parents split up. my hubby would see them every other day.
the other thing i did was just be up front with my children, they were actually more feeling and understanding.

Meme

Sounds to me that he is either being a stand up guy not wanting to leave you in a bad position financially. Or he is using his last effort to control the situation. If its that bad why do you not leave?