Interesting discussion. However, for this definition of love to exist and survive, the people involved have to have risen to a higher level of consciousness than the average human. IMO, one of the main ingredients required in order for this to arrangement work is selflessness on the part of at least one of the spouses. My wife talks the talk about this selflessness but doesn’t really walk the walk (I hear so much from her about I don’t meet her needs, and therefore, she can’t find it in herself to meet my needs).
To be truly successful with this model of love and marriage, at least one partner has to be truly selfless and the other has also be the same way, or at least the other has to be truly honest, trustworthy and have a deep level of commitment to the relationship.
Before THIS post, I was accually thinking about this , the same thoughts exactly- about at least 1 partner.
In evulating my own marriage, I can say 100% that my husband is much more selfless than ME. Always has been. It is so true, I demand more, I want more. He was patient when I was not so into sex, he was never the type to demand his needs & wants, or even complain. (I wish he had though) I am so pathetically opposite of this, he amazes me, but it sometimes bothers me too. I want him to be more selfish!!! I have accually had arguments with him about this.
I am that other partner, like THIS post mentions, who is truly Honest in return , about what I want, need and since he is such a giver, he strives to fullfill. Luckily, the things I "want" the most are things he loves to give. This surely helps. (We share the same primary Love Languages). He also understands me , with my weaknesses, knowing I am not as patient as him, not as self-less but accepts me & loves me all the same. I am a Giver too, especially in the sex department these days, I even surpass him.
BUt for me to give & give & give and not get anything back, I am simply not the type who could Endure this.
I really believe my marraige works beautifully MORE because of who I am married too, than anything I am doing. So much credit goes to my Husband.