10-25-2010, 04:45 PM
Join Date: Oct 2010
| | Re: once again put on back burner!
It would have been a nice gesture to drop his plans on this one occasion to be with you if he was aware that it was important to you that you would have liked him to be there. Did you make it clear that it would make you happy if he were there? You can't hint you have to be explicit. If he refuses when he knows how important it is to you than you have something to think about. We often put our own desires aside to do things for the people we love, do you do that for your husband?
Sometimes spouses take each other for granted, they think that they can always make up tomorrow for what they did not do today. Those slights add up and cause resentment and discord.
If your husband consistently ignores you and your needs when your are clear in stating them then, I think you need to step back and become less available to him, stop giving more than you get. Start doing things for yourself, taking time to do things you like but may not have wanted to take time away from family to do.
Become more selfish, not so available and accommodating. Start exercising, walking, doing something out side of the home at lest once per week. This will help you in two ways, you will not feel so unappreciated because you will not be giving more than you get and you will be putting yourself on the front burner where you should always place yourself. Nurture yourself and respect what you are and what you give have to give. If you value yourself and what you do, others will follow suit. If they don't then stop doing.