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Old 11-05-2010, 06:16 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Do any of you ever wish you held out for a better catch? Maybe you were going through a dry spell, and married out of desperation. Maybe you were fat, and settled for another fat, or unattractive person to marry, now youre in better shape, but your spouse never made the effort to improve, now youre much better looking than them. Maybe you married a much older man or women, who looked good then, but age has finally caught up with them, while you still look young. They say "water always finds its own level". I know it sounds shallow but, Do you ever feel like youre stuck in a marriage to someone, who you could probably do much better than?

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Old 11-05-2010, 06:47 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Um, no. I married a guy who looks like Tom Brady, literally. Face, height and build. I look like Nicole Kidman in her younger days. We are both 39 and have aged without a wrinkle. Genetics plays in to it but so does lifestyle.
Norway and Sweden makes for a great combo.
Our sons are the most handsome boys you will ever see. Mom pride, yeah I know. :-)

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If you are not happy with your spouse then you need to communicate that!
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Old 11-05-2010, 06:50 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I don't think that I am better looking than my husband.

He is four years younger than me, but with his goatee, he looks older than me. He is just handsome and attractive, IN MY EYE.

I know that I am older than my husband, so I try to stay young. I go to a beautician once in two weeks. I wear masks at home almost everyday to make my face soft. I try to eat more fruit and vegetables so I stay slim.

We still match very well. He is in good shape, I am in good shape!
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Old 11-05-2010, 06:54 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Um, no. I married a guy who looks like Tom Brady, literally. Face, height and build. I look like Nicole Kidman in her younger days. We are both 39 and have aged without a wrinkle. Genetics plays in to it but so does lifestyle.
Norway and Sweden makes for a great combo.
Our sons are the most handsome boys you will ever see. Mom pride, yeah I know. :-)

Franklin,
If you are not happy with your spouse then you need to communicate that!
Hey thanks for the reply However, Im more interested in responses from people who the OP actually applies to, Im also not really looking for advice, nor did I state, Im better looking than my spouse, I just thought it would be an interesting topic.
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Old 11-05-2010, 07:03 PM   #5 (permalink)
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It's funny. My husband jokes that I'm better-looking than he is, and it's actually true.
BUT...it has nothing to do with how attracted I am to him. In all the guys I dated before marrying him, some were more or less attractive than he is. But I've always been more physically attracted to him than previous boyfriends, even those who were "better-looking."
To me it means that my level of attraction to him isn't based on looks.
That said...when he's acting like a jerk and we're having problems, sometimes I think, "What am I doing here?? I'm beautiful and wonderful, I don't need this..."
But we're working on improving our relationship, so I try not to dwell on those feelings.
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Old 11-05-2010, 07:34 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Franklin,

I don't understand your question then. Please explain. From what you posted it certainly sounded like you thought you could do better and questioned whether attractive marries ugly.
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Old 11-05-2010, 07:50 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Do any of youever wish you held out for a better catch? Maybe you were going through a dry spell, and married out of desperation. Maybe you were fat, and settled for another fat, or unattractive person to marry, now youre in better shape, but yourspouse never made the effort to improve, now youremuch better looking than them. Maybe you married a much older man or women, who looked good then, but age has finally caught up with them, while you still look young. They say "water always finds its own level". I know it sounds shallow but, Do you ever feel like yourestuck in a marriage to someone, who you could probably do much better than?
Brennan, does this help you understand a little better?
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Old 11-05-2010, 08:29 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Your post left it unclear. I thought you were projecting about your spouse.
I married my equal. Looks and intelligence.
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Old 11-05-2010, 10:29 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Your post left it unclear. I thought you were projecting about your spouse.
I married my equal. Looks and intelligence.
Actually the topic is quite clear. I clearly asked, using the word "you" ,not "I" or "me", if anyone here felt they could do better than their spouse. You simply assumed I was talking about myself . Im glad you and your H are both hot though, congradulation on your superior aryan "genetics" but why would you feel the need to reply to a topic that obviously doesnt apply to you?

Its all good though. Im actually curious about your 1st response, lets say for argument sake, I was talking about myself, just what is it, Im supposed tell to my wife concerning this issue? " hey honey, I think Im hotter than you and would like to start dating women who are also hotter than you"

Seriously folks, dont read too much into the motivation behind the question , I just thought thered be alot of people out there that feel this way, and I thought it would be an interesting topic to start, if it doesnt apply to you though, why not just read along?
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Old 11-05-2010, 11:55 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I NEVER assumed you were talking about yourself. That's what "projecting" is about.
Why would I answer? You asked question. If you didn't want an answer, don't ask.
Aryan genetics? Whoa dude. That word alone is offensive beyond words.
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Old 11-06-2010, 12:06 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Okay,
WTH is going on?! He just mentioned Aryan genetics and now that part is gone. Modified post? Grrrr.
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Old 11-06-2010, 12:16 AM   #12 (permalink)
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I'm not stuck, and no I couldn't do better. I think we are equal.
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Old 11-06-2010, 07:23 AM   #13 (permalink)
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When I 1st got together with my then boyfriend/now husband, I was more sought after by guys than he ever was by girls. But I always felt we were = in looks (once he took his glasses off). He was simply too quiet & backwards to get the girls & the big glasses didn't help him any. I made him wear contacts for our Wedding & still do today when we go out.

I have had moments during a span of months -on very horny days when he could not keep up with me, that I felt I could have done better, but it was all about SEX. I never felt I could have done better in any other area at all through 21 yrs of marraige. Now we are more in tune with each other -since thankfully, that drive of mine has settled down some.
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Old 11-06-2010, 09:27 AM   #14 (permalink)
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It's all genetics unless you are living off fast food, smoke like a chimney, and truly are living crazy.

I know a ex model who was the studliness of studs in my early college days. He is now completely bald and 30lbs overwieght at 34. For many guys it's all in the hair.......for many women it's all how much your body changes after childbirth. I know women who gain 80-90lbs during pregnancy and their bodies were never the same afterwards. Others gained 40lbs and were back to their normal size in 3 months.

All you can do really is eat healthy, workout, control you weight, everthing else hair, skin, wrinkles is just how you were made. Some people age better than others.

My wife is hands down hotter than me imo. We all get old, wrinkled, and kick the bucket in the end. Looks are very temporary.......good luck on your marriage.

To answer your question........NOPE.....wouldn't trade her for anyone.
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My wife is really attractive, especially her hair, but in the deepest parts of my heart, I'll have to admit that I compared her unfavorably to some of the ones I dated before. I hate that about myself.

In high school and college, and now even at work, people call me "Robert Redford with muscles".

My wife obsesses about her age, because at 45, she's gray without coloring and has wrinkles. If I take after my parents, gray or wrinkles will not be an issue for a long time. My mother looks younger than my wife. Recently, my wife and I were with our daughters, and someone told my wife that she had a handsome son and beautiful daughters.

Still, I think of my wife as incredibly beautiful, and maybe that's part of the reason I'm able to overlook her very serious depression, anxiety and inability to ever say anything nice about me.

In high school, after some brief physical liasons with a teacher and a couple of older women in my area (married), I am actually attracted to older women.

I converted to my wife's faith and dropped my friendships with the ones I hung out with before we married, and I'm a corporate guy now.
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