Re: Are you better looking than your spouse?
My wife is really attractive, especially her hair, but in the deepest parts of my heart, I'll have to admit that I compared her unfavorably to some of the ones I dated before. I hate that about myself.
In high school and college, and now even at work, people call me "Robert Redford with muscles".
My wife obsesses about her age, because at 45, she's gray without coloring and has wrinkles. If I take after my parents, gray or wrinkles will not be an issue for a long time. My mother looks younger than my wife. Recently, my wife and I were with our daughters, and someone told my wife that she had a handsome son and beautiful daughters.
Still, I think of my wife as incredibly beautiful, and maybe that's part of the reason I'm able to overlook her very serious depression, anxiety and inability to ever say anything nice about me.
In high school, after some brief physical liasons with a teacher and a couple of older women in my area (married), I am actually attracted to older women.
I converted to my wife's faith and dropped my friendships with the ones I hung out with before we married, and I'm a corporate guy now.