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Old 11-09-2010, 05:03 AM   #16 (permalink)
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I heard of some study about this and it said that when a women of a centain age do this it is to ward off men and to purposely look un-attractive,and they have simply given up on looking good. Dunno, maybe she was just tired of doing her hair though?
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I spoke with her and she definitely likes it the way it is, though she is too cheap to pay for a hairdresser and keeps trying to 'fix' it herself. There's not much to 'fix' now anyways. LOL
Well, that could be a problem. A good hair stylist makes a world of difference! Couldn't imagine not having mine! I get my hair done about every 4-5 weeks and have it colored every other month.

Maybe you could offer to pay for it? If she got her hair professionally styled in a short, sexy style you might find yourself loving it!
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Old 04-07-2012, 04:31 PM   #18 (permalink)
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My wife cut her hair down to the bare bones today. It looks awful. She's a pretty lady, but now she looks like a guy. Her mom got after her the last time she did this. I hate it. I've told her before, but I think she does it to make some sort of statement. It worked, and now I just don't even want to look at her. I know it sounds cold, but she deliberately did it. We already have marital issues, now this just added to it.
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Every breakup gave me a new hair style. New chapter, new look I loved it.

I have had every hair cut possible. Shaved, down to my butt and everywhere in between. Right now it's aabout 2 inches past my shoulders and I feel good with it. Feminine. Hubs likes it long too and I respect that for him, I mean, it's not hard for me to take care of my hair...and I'm not the one lookin' at it.

And GOD FORBID he said he was going to grow a beard NO! lolol Not that he would...but if he did

It's just hair though, OP. Talk to her and tell her but...it will grow back and she'll get over it. I've had her hair cut after college and loved it. But it was maybe more punkish than your wife's. It was fun though My BF at the time LOVED it. It showed off my neck and shoulders
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Old 04-07-2012, 05:00 PM   #20 (permalink)
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I too agree with one of the posters that said "I would kill to have these types of problems."

Would you rather have a wife who cuts her hair short, or no wife at all?

Sorry not to flame but in the grand scheme of things I think things could be worse. I know it's not what you find attractive, but if your wife went through Chemo and lost her hair, would you not find her attractive based upon the love you have for her?
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Old 04-07-2012, 05:05 PM   #21 (permalink)
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I hate to say it but this is a "suck it up buttercup" moment in my opinion.

I've always been a "it's their body, their choice". I would be like her saying to you I don't want you to grow a go-tee because I hate them but you like them and the way you look with them. It would be the same - your body, your choice as it is hers.

Most women (and myself included) cut hair short for simple maintenance reasons. Short hair is easier to wash, maintain and style.
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Geez! Did you not notice the "deliberately" part of my post? The last I heard is no one deliberately gets cancer / chemo, then deliberately loses their hair.

One has nothing to do with the other. You must be really desperate to think that having a wife is all that matters, and you would put up with anything just to have one.

Let me tell you, if you had one, she'd leave because she would be so absolutely bored with your complacency.

On the chemo question, I think I would be attracted to her strength in her fight against cancer.

This really is not even remotely related to the spirit of this posting.
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I heard of some study about this and it said that when a women of a centain age do this it is to ward off men and to purposely look un-attractive,and they have simply given up on looking good. Dunno, maybe she was just tired of doing her hair though?


Uhm....I have no words for that "study". I call bullocks as my English friend might say.
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Maybe so Cantepe, but if I did something deliberate that she found unattractive, I would hope she'd say something. I do and will suck it up in the end. It is a marriage, and we have kids. I'm not leaving her because of her hair, but damn, she looks good with the longer hair. Maybe if she puts the major lipstick on, and wears something ****ty to go with it, I might be good with it.
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Maybe so Cantepe, but if I did something deliberate that she found unattractive, I would hope she'd say something. I do and will suck it up in the end. It is a marriage, and we have kids. I'm not leaving her because of her hair, but damn, she looks good with the longer hair. Maybe if she puts the major lipstick on, and wears something ****ty to go with it, I might be good with it.
TELL HER THAT! You might end up with a little something something... I know my husband would if he said that but I'm a rough around the edges French\Irish girl.
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Every breakup gave me a new hair style. New chapter, new look I loved it.

I have had every hair cut possible. Shaved, down to my butt and everywhere in between. Right now it's aabout 2 inches past my shoulders and I feel good with it. Feminine. Hubs likes it long too and I respect that for him, I mean, it's not hard for me to take care of my hair...and I'm not the one lookin' at it.

And GOD FORBID he said he was going to grow a beard NO! lolol Not that he would...but if he did

It's just hair though, OP. Talk to her and tell her but...it will grow back and she'll get over it. I've had her hair cut after college and loved it. But it was maybe more punkish than your wife's. It was fun though My BF at the time LOVED it. It showed off my neck and shoulders
so in another thread you thought getting a tat was ok even if your spouce disaproved and in this one you indicate that your hub growing a beard is a no'no? sounds like a huge double standard.
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She dosn't care if you fine her attractive.

sounds like she shopping for some new meat.
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Old 04-07-2012, 07:31 PM   #28 (permalink)
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I have the opposite problem. I've always worn my hair short, sometimes really short and spiky. Now I've let my hair grow long and my husband doesn't really like it. I think that however our hair was when he fell in love is how they like your hair. I've let it grow because it makes me look younger and sexier. I think its starting to grow on him as well.
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I'm in the opposite situation right now. My wife's always had short hair and is now growing it long for the first time in her 30s. I guess it just goes to show that what we prefer is often just what we're used to, and over time I've gotten to like the longer hair just fine. Maybe give it time and see if you end up liking it?
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so in another thread you thought getting a tat was ok even if your spouce disaproved and in this one you indicate that your hub growing a beard is a no'no? sounds like a huge double standard.
Not really because we're tat people. I don't have to kiss a tat. I do have to kiss a face with a beard. Was her tat on her face to remind him every day that he wasn't into tats? I dunno. Maybe it was. My tat is hidden. Hubs' tats are on his arms. But we dont' mind tats.

I wouldn't punish him if he did grow a beard though! I know that much. Just make him wash it before gettin' busy. Beards smell. My ex had one. EW!

Also, in the tat post, I said I couldn't think of something permanent that would make me flip. Beards are not permanent last I checked.

When I get my hair cut, he does say, "Not short! " and I respect that because it's just hair.
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