[sad-n-lonely]

I am in a difficult situation. My husband is an Executive Director of a place and has a Board of Directors above him. One of the Board of Directors is extremely influential and spends a massive amount of time with my husband on the phone and in his office or at events. She sets up tons of events just so the two of them can go. Normally she sets up a evening meal/banquet type event for the two of them to attend, and sometimes her husband attends, but I am not to. This has gone on for years and I am frustrated. She runs his life. He feels like she can run his life and his work, cause she can fire him. He looks and talks to her so much better than he talks to me. He is short and angry with me, and every time she phones, his face brightens up. He says it's only cause he has to be nice to her, and he doesn't like her. But if that's the case why does he do so much with her??? I just found out tonight that she scheduled yet another "all day event" that just the two of them attend. There used to be the many phone calls all weekend long, until I put an end to that, but it happens other ways now.

My husband says he doesn't like her, but I can't help feeling alone and frustrated. He thinks I'm being stupid.

Our sexlife is NIL. Nothing in the last 8 years. He refuses to go to Marriage Counselling cause we live in a small town and everyone knows everyone, and this other person owns a bunch of businesses in town, and everyone knows her, so we can't talk to anyone.

I feel really trapped, and I don't know what to do.

I have tried talking to him, and he just thinks I'm off the deep end. That he's doing nothing wrong. I just wish I can videotape him to show how much he brightens just to talk to her.

BTW, she is married as well.

I am sooooo unhappy and lonely, I just don't know what to do.

[Rob774]

It sounds like your husband is kinda jammed up, i was willing to feel for him until you mentioned no love making in 8 years?!?!?!? Something is not right with that. You guys had better be in your 60's because i can't see anyone going that long in thier earlier years. I mean has he expressed a reason why you guys haven't had sex in so long? To me, that's a way bigger issue than the nagging superior of his.