Things are going better at our house. George has moved back in and we are spending time together and beginning to do the things together that we did before all this happened. (Bi-polar, lying, spending, he accused me of cheating but I never did, he was arrested cuz I called the cops on him...just in case no one remembers me). Still no sex, which is really starting to get to me. Any suggestions on how I can make it happen sooner rather than later?
We are going on our family vacation this weekend. Going to the beach with the kids. George and I are going to ride over to the casino on Sunday without the kids for a few hours. He has even agreed to marriage counseling. But he still wont kiss, hug, or do anything intimate with me. We dont even shower together and we use to do that almost 3 times a week. Any suggestions? I feel like he is not attracted to me but he says that is just going to take time. HELP!!!!
When my husband wasnt showing me any physical attention i tried to make him by pushing the issue by talking it to death and trying to turn him on. all this ended up doing was making him resent me and humiliating myself.
so as hard as it was i just backed off. at first it crushed my self esteem, left me lonely, and thinking of an affair. i was so frustrated and angry because i thought this just wasnt fair. But two years later and its not that big of a deal to me anymore. i do other things like workout a lot (lowers libido), find new hobbies, and take care of my appearance. Ironically, now that i'm not that interested, he's very interested.
i maintain myself quite well and this makes a difference with us.
i have a high sex drive and so did my hubby until he started taking medication.
im not bothered about who initiates.
but i find i push the issue and i usually get what i want , and yes we both enjoy it.
ok very rarely i get the odd no, but usually when hubby really , really tired.
start with foreplay ,kissing.
you seem to have the opportunity soon, so take it then. why dont you both discuss staying overnight as u havent got the children.
im going to be honest i wouldnt try and lower your libido. you are what you are.
I've always read or been told that the sex can't be rushed. It may take years. I don't think it is nearly as important as the return of simple affection. Just my thought...
Things are going better at our house. George has moved back in and we are spending time together and beginning to do the things together that we did before all this happened. (Bi-polar, lying, spending, he accused me of cheating but I never did, he was arrested cuz I called the cops on him...just in case no one remembers me). Still no sex, which is really starting to get to me. Any suggestions on how I can make it happen sooner rather than later?
We are going on our family vacation this weekend. Going to the beach with the kids. George and I are going to ride over to the casino on Sunday without the kids for a few hours. He has even agreed to marriage counseling. But he still wont kiss, hug, or do anything intimate with me. We dont even shower together and we use to do that almost 3 times a week. Any suggestions? I feel like he is not attracted to me but he says that is just going to take time. HELP!!!!
Well it seems that you guys have gone back to the dating stage and if he is hurt are has any uncertaint of the relationship then this is the best way to go back to dating.He is just probaly worried about being to committed to you go slow if he wants to you dont want to push him away.
I am new here... and I don't know the full story here, but it seems to me like hes treating you like some would treat someone who cheated on them. I know you said you didn't maybe he doesn't believe it and deep down he still believes you did. I think the counseling is a very good idea. Is he the one that is Bi-polar...I have family with that it seems to go along with paranoia and with depression.
Things going ok, still no sex
