Kelly35

I met a man about a 18 months ago. He's been hurt in the past and briefly explained that he doesn't "do commitment" We had a nice relationship but always on his terms. He saw me when he wanted to and if he didn't want to then it didn't happen. When we spent time together we had great fun and lots in common but it was about once a month. Then last year he decided he didn't want to speak to me anymore and just deleted my number and refused to reply to my texts. I stopped texting then after 3 weeks he got in touch. We were friends (no sexual contact) for about 3 months and it all went well, then we took it to next level, again on his terms. I was seeing him about twice a month and it was so nice. He lives alone and doesn't go out at all and so we always met at his place. Although we saw eachother just twice a month, we exchanged friendly often attentive message on a daily basis. Then suddenly 3 weeks agao he text me saying one of us will get hurt if we carry on and we need to stop it all. Again I have contacted him but he ignores me and so I have decided not to contact him again. I feel so hurt and confused. Did he ever like me? What was it all about? Why won't he explain and how can he dismiss me so easily after we were in contact daily, sometimes exchanging 300 texts a week. I'm so depressed and I knwo contacting him again would really annoy him so I'm kind of in limbo here. I don't know how I feel about him, I don't think I loved him. I miss the friend he was more than the lover. We told eachother so much and I feel lost. x

Trenton

You should tell him this and tell him you're not afraid of getting hurt if he's not afraid of getting hurt. That is if you're not afraid of getting hurt. Seems to me he is.

4sure

People move on sounds like that is what he did. You move on, date, make friends. You may hear from him, if you do then at that time you decide if you want to stay in touch. Afterall he told you he "doesn't do commitment" take him at his word.

Do you want to be with a guy who "doesn't do commitment?"

chefmaster

I don't mean to be crass but this sounds exactly like he's hiding something.




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"Cooking is like love. It should be entered into with abandon or not at all. -Van Horne

F-102

Or maybe he's JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!

SimplyAmorous

I understand you are very very hurt, but why pursue someone who is not head over heels for you, so not worth your time, even your thoughts.

Many men of today - just do not "need" women, he may be one of those. He made it clear in the beginning , no commitments, I guess he was being honest & upfront. I think just hearing that, would have made me run the other way, and only talk to him when he called, while I pursued others in the meantime.

Greive this loss and look for love elsewhere.

Idontknownow

Pretty much, you played his game by his rules and got played. Move on and learn from it.