iheartmywife

I honestly want to thank you guys for the support and just listening to me ramble on endlessly about my problems. I am startin lil by lil to get a sense of self again.
I'm here takin a break from doing my pushups. yea that's right getting the body back in shape. kinda let myself go since I got married. after wards gonna do a couple laps round the track at the park near me. having me time is great. I am not however going to ignore her. that is not the point of it. just giving her some time to herself instead of her feeling like I'm breathing down her neck.

the saying that love makes you do some stupid things could never be truer. I still wouldn't trade the love I have for her for anything in the world.
well back to working out. will keep you guys updated

justean

the grass is not greener. but your answering your own questions. and helping yourself.
we all get into lull periods within marriage and let ourselves go.
but good on you.
you really cant ask n e more of yourself at this point . because your also trying for yourself.

iheartmywife

well here's an update. I get up to a text that says the password to our phone account was change. lol. kinda figured that was going to happen. asked for the password and was told no. its all good. If I wanted in I would get in. that's a fact. there is always more than one way to skin a cat. the only thing now is payin the bill. she has locked me out from that so that is her responsibility.
so the arguement goes on for about 3 hours until we both ran out of steam. he earlier than her. told her that I loved her but if ever she felt like she couldn't take it anymore the door is open but it only swings one way. I guess she never though I would say that cause the arguement changed from her being pissed to her just being tired of arguing. I told her I didn't wanna argue but she messed up and she has got to change cause I'm not putting up with it anymore. basically change or leave cause I aint going no where. we then started talking about being disconnected from each other and we missed the time we use to have. sneakin sex and hangin out. that's what we did on vacation. sneak sex in the carribean ocean with people around . by the way easier said than done especially in 4 feet of clear water. and the hanging out. which was great because I forgot how much fun it was going places with her.
when it comes to sex I told her she need to work for my sexy flat ass. did I mention I was at work while arguing on the phone with her. good thing I got my own office. she said she will try. I asked her what turns her on. she said she doesn't no. I didn't pressure it cause I no she still had her defenses up. when everything calmed down we decided to go to dinner. she is going to pick me up from work and take me out. she is going to do the work tonight. she is also going to get the wine that we both like. and if things work out right, we will be very (wink wink) happy at the end of the night. but the rule for tonight is to talk bout anything but our problems. that's gonna take a back seat to us enjoying each others company

ljtseng

I just got Mort Fertel's Marriage fitness newsletter and that's actually what he says you should do. So great idea! It sounds like you are handling things a lot better with her. Talking about what you two used to do and how much you enjoyed hanging out is a great way to go!

justean

i think your doing really good. your starting to understand her.
told you , doing the opposite would throw her of guard.

iheartmywife

thank you. I owe you guys a lot. if I'm ever in whales I owe u dinner. platonic of course. the misses would have a 22 with my name on it. lol. I'm fast but not to out run a bullet.
I plan on definatly kill her with kindness and love. we will have to talk about the issues but baby steps. we need to reconnect first. once we r a team again then we can tackle our serious problems. but first we need that connection back.

justean

wales . a pure welsh girl, through and through.
as for dinner , dont worry.
you have that dinner for you and your missus.

so what u waiting for - go take her out for a meal and dont forget the flowers.