02-20-2007, 10:35 AM
Join Date: Feb 2007
| | I need help!! What should I do??
I know this is a long thing to read but I need serious help, please read and give me some advice! Thank you! I am 20 years old and I have only been married for 6 months (our six month anniversary was yesterday) but I have been with him for 4 years. While we were dating he had a tendency to lie about little things and have a bad temper but I love him so much I overlooked it. Since we have been married he has lied about paying our bills, I know is sounds stupid but it is serious. If he will lie about little things like that what else is he lying about? One time he had told me that he paid his truck payment with the check I gave him and he swore to me he paid it even though the bank was calling saying it hadn't been paid. I told him that I would rather him tell me the truth and say he forgot to pay it or he just didn't do it but he continued to yell at me for calling him a lyer. Two days later I found the check in his truck and he to this day tells me that he thought he went and paid it. I am sorry but you don't think you go and pay something, and he has never apologized to me. But I do love him and I have stuck with him even though he has done things like that EVERY time I have trusted him with something. Well in December we had to turn our tags in on our vehicles because he "forgot" to pay our insurance and it had lapsed and we had just got them back on Jan 20. Our insurance was due again on Feb 8 and I told him on Feb 7 to go and pay it and he swore to me he would. That evening he told me that he had paid it and everything was fine, on saturday we got a letter in the mail from the Insurance company saying our insurance was going to lapse due to non payment. So I asked him why he didn't pay it and he starts his yelling rampage about how he paid it and that I need to stop acusing him of things. So on monday I called the insurance company and they told me that nothing had been paid and that he had not been up there, so I called him and gave him SO many chances to admit that he had lied but he refused, so I packed up my things and left because I just feel like I can't take it anymore. On wednesday (VALENTINE'S DAY!) we went up to the insurance company because he told me he could prove he paid it, so I went with him. When we got there he told me that he wanted me to wait in the car but I am not stupid so I went in with him and he was like "I just need to get proof that my insurance is up to date" the lady was like I don't see that it is and another lady said oh yeah he came in THIS MORNING and paid it and when she asked him if that's what he had done he had the nerve to say "NO" if I hadn't went in he was going to get a reciept and come back to the car and let me have it for calling him a lyer and he was even try to lie with me in there so he wouldn't get caught!! Does he think I was born yesterday?? well when we got in the car I was crying and asking him why he lied to me and never admit it and for some reason instead of apoligizing he was yelling at me! he has never hit me before, he has shoved me down and broke our bathroom door and punched the refridgerator but never punched me. well we were riding down the highway with him yelling at me and me wondering what in the heck was going on and he said he was going to jump out of the car on the interstate so I pulled over and he was in my face cussing me and yelling at me so I slapped him and as soon as I did he Punched me as hard as he could in the head. I dropped him off at the house and went to the doctor and found out I had a minor concusion. What a valentines day huh... anyway I am staying with my parents and I just can't decided what I should do, should I give him another chance as long as he goes to counseling or should I just say forget it and move on. I do love him but I am not convinced anymore that he loves me. I mean how can you love someone and lie to their face so many times and then hit them? PLEASE HELP ME!!