11-25-2010, 05:28 PM
Join Date: May 2010
| | Re: Bringing a man home..
Your son is 17, and old enough to understand that Mom dates and has a life apart from him. As for your father, you are a grown woman with just as much a right to bring someone home as your father.
The only part of this I would question is the message you want to send your son. By having a man in your home, unmarried, you are sending your son the message that sex outside of marriage, in a relationship that may/may not be committed, is ok. If that is the message you have always wanted to send your son, then you're good. If not, then you might want to rethink it.
For myself, my sons are 9 & 7. I simply made it seem like a nonissue. I introduced my boys to my boyfriend, gave them a chance to get to know each other, and once all of them were comfortable with each other, he would spend the night. Of course, being younger, they may not have yet fully picked up on the whys and what goes on and all, but I would think you could use something of the same idea with an older boy.