unhappywithlife

I don't know where to start but here is abt my life:

I got married 6 months back. I am just so frustated with him becuase all the time he thinks about sex. Most of the time when we are together, he just want physical relation.
I tried to talk to him that i can't take it because i feel you just need sex. He says that i just talk bookish and in practical its not possible. He needs sex everyday. If some day i avoid it, he just get so frustrate and start banging doors and acts weird.

Its about my first night: ( i know its always personal but there is nothing good abt my first night) What a person expects in first night? Be romantic, talk to other person with love, touch gently and then comes other things. He didn't talk to me at all. he straightway wanted sex...when he couldn't do it, he just didn't sleep for whole night and he was so frustrated.

Today is my birthday and he doesn't even remember my birthday. First birthday after marriage
and i never even got any gift from him till today..

I don't know what to do with life...and he is verbally and physically abusive but he says sorry after that and he just keep saying that he loves me so much and can't live without me..I am just so confused if its his love or he just need sex? I am just so quiet now a days and i feel m dying inside.
I don't know what to do..please help.

ljtseng

when you say he is physically abusive does he hit you? Push you?

unhappywithlife

Yes he does hit me.

Amplexor

Don’t hesitate. Leave the relationship and get away from him. There may be hope if he gets counseling but at this time you need to leave or the violence will just continue or possibly escalate. There is no good reason to stay in a physically abusive relationship.

__________________
Amp

Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.

Mrs. Negestie

If you say that he does hit you then there is no question in just GETTING OUT THE RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW!! Or maybe you are waiting for that day when your bones are broken?

babyblues7

Please leave him. His behavior is very odd!! You deserve more. Dont become the battered wife and risk losing yourself or your life. He is not interested in having a real marriage but getting what he can out of you. Dont let someone treat you that way, you seem like such a nice person. Stay with some family for awhile until you can get on your feet. But please dont risk it staying there another day!!

hooverphonic

No question, you must leave this relationship. Sex problems can typically be worked out but violence is unacceptable. In the future it won't be just you, it could be your child getting abused. Play it smart though. Tell someone you trust, i.e. a friend or relative then make a plan to leave. Have this person you trust with you when you gather important personal items and clothes from home in case he comes home. Do not let your husband know where you are going. If you don't have someone you trust, contact your local police department. They can accompany you while you gather your things and direct you to local support services. Good luck and please don't hesitate to leave.

loveandmarriage

Do you live in the United States? If so, there are plenty of organizations that can help you leave and start anew.

What was it like for you when you were growing up? Was there abuse?

Never let anyone put their hands on you. Today it's a grab of the arm. Tomorrow it escalates into punches, or even more.

MarkTwain

I agree with the others that you should leave him, or at the very least insist you separate while he goes on an anger management course. However, I am curious about the quote above. What actually happened? What do yo mean when you said "when he couldn't do it"?