janesmith

Ive been hanging around a couple of days. I found this forum looking for different perspectives and experiences because i was thinking i was the only one going through my issue.

Ive been getting more intouch with my own participation in some of the bad places my relationship has gone lately.

I was sitting here reading the posts and thinking as much as we complain i wonder what my spouse would say about me if he were posting on this forum. It got me really wanting to find out what living with me has like for the last 17 years. What has been the highs and lows for him. I wonder i the answer would match mine. I had forgoten my husband was a person outside of "us" and that caused me to stop seeing him as the love of my life and seeing him as the problem with "our marriage.

I would like us all to ask our spouses what it is like to live with us and come back and share.

major misfit

I'm really hoping that if my SO has a problem with me, he'd come to me and talk about it. I'm certainly open to anything he would have to say. I've not had to ask any advice pertaining to my r-ship (thank goodness). All my issues in life stem from other things that this message board doesn't cover. There are other message boards that do, lol.

This board has been a reminder to me. A daily reminder that I have a terrific man who truly loves and cares about me. Our r-ship works. People tell me I'm lucky. I don't think I'm so much lucky as I am smart(er). Luck was meeting him...smart was recognizing that though he didn't fit the "profile" of the type of man I was ordinarily attracted to, he was one of the proverbial "good guys"..and I gave him a shot. I almost didn't, b/c he's younger than myself, and I had a "thing" about younger men. I'm glad I did. He hasn't let me down. This forum is a daily reminder to remember what rocks his world, what makes him happy, and to keep doing the things I know will keep him there. I do my part, and he will do his. Maybe I'm lucky after all...................

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Solg

Wow major misfit!

janesmith

that is awesome misfit! I thought i had Problems, but i realized i only have problems and my husband is pretty great, sometimes in my frustration i forget that fact. hanging out here helps me remember