Dancing Nancie

I think this thread got off topic as to what I was looking for. I thought I had made it clear that my wife and I were not going to bring someone else into our love life.

After reading the thread my-wife-9-years-has-become-very-friendly-younger-male, the topic made its way into our bedroom. There was a lot of interest in his situation. Draconis noted that the thread was dead, so I thought of starting a new one to discuss the topic in a different way.

The reason behind this thread was to inquire into others thoughts on if this was a fantasy and if it was, why? Also I was curious to see what boundaries others would have to set if they could. I have certain boundaries I would need for this to happen, and was curious what other thought on that.

I think that anyone who has any resemblance of devotion to their marriage is not willing to put their marriage at risk by doing this is off a bit. I am well aware of the risks involved, and am not willing to risk my marriage over sexual fulfillment. I am more than willing to admit it is a fantasy of mine and that is what drew me into the thread mentioned.

draconis

I think everyone thinks what it would be like to have another involved. When I was ounger I thought that way but the more I age the less appealing the thought is to me. I really don't want it anymore because..

1) I can hardly keep up with the wife and she with me, so someone will be left wanting.

2) The backlash it could have on my family.

As far as if I was ever going to do it.

1) What is acceptable.

2) A way that anyone can back out at any time no questions asked.

3) A safty word for my wife and I.

4) Set boundries to what it would mean.

5) A clear understanding about condom use etc.

6) What if any role the other person has and if they can slep over after etc.

7) Agree to set it up slowly and carefully, and know enough about the person so to know they will not think more of it then it is or stalk after.

just some food for thought.

draconis

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justean

if it was me that took the thread of the wrong way - i wil apologise

Dancing Nancie

I don't think I properly worded what I was looking to say. I was looking for the topic to be a lot more light hearted than it turned out to be.

The fantasy to bring another man into our bedroom has become more frequent over the last few years for me. I will say there are several reasons for this. I think my wife is incredibly sexy, but she doesn't see herself the same way I see her. In some way (more than likely completely wrong), I think that having someone else take her would boost her self esteem and ego. Another is just about me ejoying seeing her pleasured. I really get off on her orgams, and this would hit the spot for me. The other is more of an issue of size, and seeing her with someone larger than me. Not sure why I like that thought, but I just do...

swedish

My husband bought an adult board game and we played it last weekend...It's funny because we have never discussed this either and it came up as a question for him to answer...whether he had this fantasy and if so, what it involved. I think just talking about it brought us much closer, especially in terms of talking about sex.

For me, I know I could not deal with a threesome. I just want him all to myself. The end.

The fantasy is another story...just the thought of more than one person wanting to pleasure me at the same time but I would not want to experience the reality. The fantasy is just fine on its own.

As long as you are both secure enough to talk about fantasies, it can be a healthy way to spice things up...several months back I told my husband that one of mine was to be watched and we were staying in a high rise hotel in the city and made some excitement of our own in front of the window (lights off so in reality still private) but it added some excitement because we could look down and see people in the streets, etc.

justean

i dont think you need to worry to much.
but thanks for replying to me.