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Old 12-22-2010, 06:03 PM   #1 (permalink)
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i need help - i am married to a wonderfull wife with 4 perfect kids yet still i am a idiot and play away with a girl half my age..i am 2 scared to finish my affair as to how gf will cope but love my family to bits but just lie and lie to them.
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Old 12-22-2010, 06:50 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Did you read the thread started by "secretsquirrel"? Someone in the same spot you're in.

What do you want to do? You're cake eating, and you can't keep it up. Do you want your wife and family, or do you want your girlfriend? Which is it?
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Old 12-22-2010, 07:30 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Think about it: continuing the affair out of fear of how your gf will react when you dump her is only making it more likely you'll get caught, anyway. So find the courage and do it. You may decide you have to tell your wife nonetheless, because how can you work on your marriage, and prevent this from happening again (which it will, if you don't address your personal and marital issues) if your wife does not know how serious things are?

What do you want someone to tell you, how to get out of it without getting caught? No one can do that. You can caught as a coward, or you can get caught while doing the only right thing in this horrid situation you've created. You might not get caught if you end it, by the way, so that is your 1 chance to snatch at a "get out of jail free" card--but again, you probably need to disclose the affair to your wife, anyway. Better she hears it from you than anyone else. And remember, if it leads to the end of your marriage, that is the price you pay for such choices. Man up and face the consequences. At least you'll have the knowledge that you did the right thing if you end up alone. If you just get caught and end up alone, you won't even have that.


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Old 12-22-2010, 08:16 PM   #4 (permalink)
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You are stuck, it's called catch 22.

First you are much older than me, you are going to find this very sarcastic. I don't have mercy for men who cheat.

First, you are lying to your family, this is giving you pressure, too much lying can make a person's heart weak. You are constantly worrying, it is not good for your health. If I guess right, you might have high blood pressure now. Hope I am not right. I am not that cruel.

Second, this girl friend of yours won't let you go easily. If you break up with her, she will cause a scene to you, your family, and the place where you work. Some women can be very vengeful. And for women who don't mind having affairs with married men, they don't have much high moral standards, when they attack, it is going to be ugly. I have seen many cases like this happen here in Taiwan. I don't know why she is with you, for money or for sex, anyway, this woman is a hot potato in your hand.

After your family finds out about your affair, your children will resent you, children usually take the side of the weak side, here means their mother's side, because their mother is a victim here. You can imagine them for not wanting to talk to you any more.

Wa, man, you are in trouble. A lot of men bring this kind of trouble onto themselves.

That's why I say, let's do tons of sweet things to cherish our men who are faithful, faithful men deserve our love and care. Unfaithful men, let them deal with their loss, I have no mercy for them.
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GreenPearl, totally agree with you and love the marriage pics btw, you look so g*o*r*g*e*o*u*s in them!
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greenpearl, totally agree with you and love the marriage pics btw, you look so g*o*r*g*e*o*u*s in them!
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What marriage pics???? I didn't get to see any marriage pics!!! Waaahhhhh!!!
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What marriage pics???? I didn't get to see any marriage pics!!! Waaahhhhh!!!
It is on my face book account, do you want to see it?
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Old 12-22-2010, 11:28 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Yes, I would love to...I love people's pics!

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