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Originally Posted by tklaw82
She then told me that if I leave for even a minute on the holidays, she would make everybody’s lives a living hell and make sure that our children remember how horrible the holidays were.
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As far as I am concerned, that statement is proof that she is controlling to the point that she threatens to make the children suffer in order to get what she wants.
On the point that brad and draconis seem to be a loggerheads over, concerning domestic violence and gender, I have a story. I had a gf who used to punch me. Sometimes I would hold her wrists, sometimes I just let her hit me, I never felt too worried because I was stronger than her. So for me, the fighting was optional.
Usually the man is stronger than the woman. Unless she arms herself with knives, rolling pins or crockery, a man can just get up and walk out the door, even while he is still being hit.
So whereas, such a man might choose to stay, and try to get his wife to seek help, a woman is best advised to leave before she get physically damaged. So that is why I am against being PC! It covers up the practical issues. Men and women are equal, but not in the same areas. On average, men are superior physically, women are superior sexually, to name just two areas.
I do worry that this woman might up the ante and use a knife. I think this is a very serious situation. Having not been firm with her thus far, you are going to seem like a changed man. I would proceed with caution, but firmness is the answer I believe - whether you stay or leave.
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