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Old 12-28-2010, 10:36 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Do you have a black hole in your marriage?

When you remove the core of your relationship...sex...intamacy...communication... a black hole is left in the center of your relationship. The perimiter has work, friends, church, travel, raising kids, etc. But the black hole is always in the center. Eventually, the perimeter begins to slide into the dark hole too.

Do you think the black hole can be filled? How? Can the marriage be saved, or should I let it go for good?

I hate the black hole.
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Old 12-28-2010, 10:49 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Default Re: Do you have a black hole in your marriage?

That's a very... interesting analogy of marriage, and I agree -> external issues are nothing compared to internal ones (if thats what you mean)

Well the "black hole" can be filled with stuff from the perimeter, work, friends, kids, church, etc etc. Just makes it horrid to deal with really, and only delays the inevitable.

But sometimes the delay still gives time to help fix things up at least :P
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I may misunderstand what you're saying... But I believe if there is no sex and communication everything else becomes moot... But sometimes we fear that hole coming... So we intergrate everything else... In somewhat our lives is work, kids, chore, ect... So it's all we discuss... We try and learn from eachother... Even try to find team hobbies ( not going so well for financial reasons ) bit we try everything together... If you see or feel a black hole approaching take initiative to steer it away... Otherwise I would see it as overthinking and stressing about what's not there...
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