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Old 01-13-2011, 01:28 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Hi everyone! I'm really hoping that some of you can shed some light on an issue I'm having with my boyfriend. Recently while doing laundry in the last few weeks I've noticed a few times white spots/stains in my boyfriends boxers. I'm not sure what they are but I'm thinking it's not good as the days I noticed the spots we weren't intimate and he was at work. Sometimes the stains are hard like an ejaculate stain and sometimes I've noticed that they're not hard. The one day I saw some, they were really low in his boxers. Like where his legs would be. He said that was from cysts/boils that he has on his legs that busted and it must be pus from that. Well, it was ALOT of pus if that were the case. I question it though because it was on the lower part of his boxers.

When I confronted him the other times he says he doesn't know. The only way there would be stains from sexual intercourse would be from us. Those days we were not intimate.

So my question is, do I need to be concerned that he is cheating? I don't even know if these are ejaculate stains or something else. Can a man have these types of spots/stains normally without sex, etc.?

I'm just really concerned. I can't believe that I'm even to this point where I have to ask but I don't want to be taken advantage of. I'm really asking for your input and it's so greatly appreciated. Thanks!

P.S. I have other reasons to suspect cheating. Secret friendship/relationship with a "friend" at work that he never told me about. THis was back in October. According to him it was just a friendship and all communication has stopped.
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Old 01-13-2011, 01:33 PM   #2 (permalink)
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This WOULD NOT cause me to think my husband was cheating.

And my question is, do you always check out all of his clothes like this?

I just throw my husband's clothes in the washer, I don't inspect them.

I really don't know what to say, so I guess I shouldn't have posted anything, huh?
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Old 01-13-2011, 01:59 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Hi everyone! I'm really hoping that some of you can shed some light on an issue I'm having with my boyfriend. Recently while doing laundry in the last few weeks I've noticed a few times white spots/stains in my boyfriends boxers. I'm not sure what they are but I'm thinking it's not good as the days I noticed the spots we weren't intimate and he was at work. Sometimes the stains are hard like an ejaculate stain and sometimes I've noticed that they're not hard. The one day I saw some, they were really low in his boxers. Like where his legs would be. He said that was from cysts/boils that he has on his legs that busted and it must be pus from that. Well, it was ALOT of pus if that were the case. I question it though because it was on the lower part of his boxers.

When I confronted him the other times he says he doesn't know. The only way there would be stains from sexual intercourse would be from us. Those days we were not intimate.

So my question is, do I need to be concerned that he is cheating? I don't even know if these are ejaculate stains or something else. Can a man have these types of spots/stains normally without sex, etc.?

I'm just really concerned. I can't believe that I'm even to this point where I have to ask but I don't want to be taken advantage of. I'm really asking for your input and it's so greatly appreciated. Thanks!

P.S. I have other reasons to suspect cheating. Secret friendship/relationship with a "friend" at work that he never told me about. THis was back in October. According to him it was just a friendship and all communication has stopped.

Any reason to think it is not from boils? Does he not have boils?
I don't recall ever having ejaculation stains in my underwear on a regular basis for whatever reason.
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Old 01-13-2011, 02:06 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I remember them on occasion in the morning from a wet dream but that's about it.
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I remember them on occasion in the morning from a wet dream but that's about it.

That is what Iím thinking, a wet dream, because if a man if having an affair I don't think he is ejacuting in his boxers. He would be doing it with the other woman.
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I guess another possibility could be from a lapdance but I personally have never lost it in my pants from one. I know that some men do though. Now that I think about it, it has been way too many years since I've had a lap dance...
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[QUOTE=sailorgirl;236868]That is what Iím thinking, a wet dream, because if a man if having an affair I don't think he is ejacuting in his boxers. He would be doing it with the other woman.[/QUO

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He could be masturbating more often now...
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I heard they sell kits on-line to see if your man or woman is cheating. Maybe you could get one to check.
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I heard they sell kits on-line to see if your man or woman is cheating. Maybe you could get one to check.
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Kits to test for cheating? I'm almost afraid to ask how that works.
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Old 01-13-2011, 03:14 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Hi guys...it's alot...sometimes it's hard sometimes it's not...

Sometimes I think it could be that he's having sex with someone else and it's the juices from her. Like after they have sex he just pulls his boxers up and it's her stuff dried on his boxers? Is that an option?

But then again, he does have those boils...if they burst would they leave that much of a pus stain?
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Ok I'm already about to puke and not to make it worse but do they smell like semen?
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Other than the underwear issues, what other signs have you noticed or would make you feel he might be cheating?
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Old 01-13-2011, 03:38 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Hi guys - it does not smell like semen...sometimes it has a scent that I can't pinpoint though..

I believe he is cheating because I found out he was at a bar with some woman and then he was texting her all day at work but deleted the texts from his phone. NEVER told me about her. Says they were just friends. Why did he hide the relationship then? Right? He says he has cut all ties. I just don't believe him. Plus, lipstick stain on his collar once and lipstick on his lower shirt (well, what I thought was lipstick). I just don't know if I'm just paranoid. I do have trust issues.
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I think you should start cehcking him out, (just to be sure) as he will not tell you and all seems suspiciuos..
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