After 15 years of marriage + 5 years of dating... my husband and I have slowly drifted apart. what first started as what I thought was just us having individual ideas about things, now is simply leading separate lives under the same roof. We interact when needed... but the relationship is nowhere near normal... we barely talk anymore... I mean together... for deveral years, he's swon less and less signs of interest in anything I do... my work, my hobbies...my thoughts...
And I feel alone. we sleep at night and he faces the other direction and barely says anything..... I am so lonely and frustrated... we've gone through therapy,discussions.... and it seems it all bottoms down to both of us are not happy with each other but are sticking it out for our kids.... is this right?
I cry every night out of loneliness and plain sadness of how my marriages is...empty...lonely...and non existent.
I do not have the courage to be the one to call it quits.... but lately, it seems to be on my mind more and more. I am only 39 yrs old and I feel that theres got to be something more in life that 15 yrs spending it in misery and unhappiness....
Dont get me wrong.. I do love him, and I think he loves me... we got marries at 24 and had a child at 25... I think we were both not emotionally mature... and now that we are older, at least for me.... I feel I made the wrong choice...maybe he wasn't the guy for me ...had I knew better, could I have seen this coming???
So confused.. 10 million emotions rushing in... miserable everyday....pls help? Is what I am saying even making sense to anyone???
i been there a few times in my marriage.my husband and i just celabrated 18 years together yesterday.
get the book how to improve your marriage without talking about it by steven stoney and patrica love,awsome book and a bonus if your husband will read it to.but do ask until things improve some first.
someone has to make the first move,unfair yes,but most of the time in relationships like you have,one has to go first.it seemed like ive always been the one to do it,but lately my husband has which i never thought would happen.
while laying in bed,turn to him and cuddle him,give him a back massage.
the next day cook his favorite meal.do little things everyday to show him you care.if he loves you,he will move towards you,it might take him a little longer to put his guard down,but he will.
do not talk about your marriage problems during this time,you have to wait until your relationship is much stronger.read that book first before you talk about anything with him.
how is your sex life?did you turn him away alot in the past before things got bad?
your marriage doesnt have to be loveless and boring,marriage takes work.get working,you can do it.