emotinal wreck

beauty1982 · 08-27-2008, 04:35 PM

Hi I am new here. My husband and I have been married for a little over 2 years now we have been together for over 8 years. We have had a lot of problems with anger management and physical fighting, however, currently I am not concerned with the physical fighting we both seem to be getting better at not letting things escalate enough to become physical. I feel that my husband is very disrespectful to me when we are having a disagreement. For example if he says ye and I say ne, within a split second I become the worst person in the world such stupid a**, b*%$h, f-ing dum, crazy. This behavior causes me to become very emotional. Worst case scenario is when we are having a good day or just finished making love. I don't feel like I can trust him with my feelings. At this point I don't want to make love to him or be affectionate with him because of this. This is nothing new he has done this for a long time. He always tries to blame me after he has one of these outburst. He says this is my fault and that all I have to do is just listen. I know better and his behavior is not my fault. I don't see how I can force him to change and at this point I really don't care. I just want to make it so every time he does this I don't start crying uncontrollably like a child.

AZMOMOFTWO · 08-27-2008, 05:05 PM

This is really bad behavior, but I don't have to tell you that. I am also worried since you said there is some physical too. He can't seem to control his anger. He needs to see someone. You can't stay in that situation. He is destroying you. I'm sorry but you need to leave. If he wants to work it out then he should seek help and then perhaps you have a chance. You do not deserve this and it certaily is not your fault but its common for abusive people to blame the one they abuse. Get out of this situation please.

draconis · 08-27-2008, 11:15 PM

Sometimes emotional/verbal abus can be worse then physical abuse. And what happens when you hav children, do you want them living like this?

draconis

GAsoccerman · 08-28-2008, 11:40 AM

I have seen this same behavior out of a co-worker, I watched him go down a ugly path and get divorced.

He was an emotionally abused and physically abused child, his father also sexual abused his sisters, he blames his sisters one of whom drank themselves to death.

He can't see he has these issues. Your hubby is a classic case.

I would have him see a therapist IMMEDIATELY, get HELP. IF you love him do this. He will need to see one privately and you will both need to see one together.

I been with my wife 18 years and had never ever laid a hand on her. That is completely unacceptable.