Re: My wifes toxic friend is going to cause our divorce!
You can do it, Stay in control, no matter how much you want to say something snide or sarcastic do not let it out.
You are heading in the right direction, stay focused and after nine years there are some great memories, in addition bring up the fact that you are looking for a bright future with her.
Just stay positive with your conversation no matter if its about a awsome vacation you took so many years ago, or what it will be like to retire with her and even mention watching the kid grow up and things of that nature. Really any thing that will shine a light on happier times.
Don't be affraid to thank her for the date and acknowledge the things you are thankful for. If you do love her tell her. Show her all the reasons why she married you, Date night is not the time to think about if your going to get bit in the ass for dating your wife, it's just a date enjoy it.
Don't forget the compliments.... her shoes , hair, and even her scent.