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Old 02-02-2011, 07:24 AM   #1 (permalink)
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He treats me with such disdain. I kept on wondering how can I make this work when he is not interested. When I told him Friday that I'm just a convevience to him he did not even bother to deny it. I asked him to do something Saterday and he got so nasty. So Saterday afternoon when he asked me if I did it myself I said not yet but I have made arrangements. He then got angry, saying he just made a joke. It escalated into a major argument. I walked out saying it's over. Later he came to the bedroom and started kissing me, after sex he thought everything was okay. Then last night he started screaming at me because of something so stupid. I got very angry and screamed back, telling him it's over. He then came to me saying he'll go to councilling. I said he must do what he must do, I'm already going and don't care much what he's doing. I have started selling some of my belongings today. He found out and phoned me wanting to know what I'm doing.

I am tired. Even if this ruins my life I can't accept this behaviour anymore. Maybe he will get a wakeup call now that I'm doing something concrete. I'm not just going to accept his word that he will change. His word means nothing to me.
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Old 02-02-2011, 09:35 AM   #2 (permalink)
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I believe you're doing the right thing. If you give in now, you still have feelings of resentment. Stick to your plan, and maybe he'll take you seriously and realize what he's done. It sounds like he cares about you. If you stay, things will most likely return to the way they were - may not tomorrow or next week, but it will be back. Good luck
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His word means nothing to me.

I've said it dozens of times on this forum when it comes to a spouse changing their behavior. You are correct, actions speak louder than words. He's proven he can't be held to his word. If he is willing to improve and take action (Counseling) hold his feet to the fire and clearly set your expectations. If that includes a zero tolerance policy, make sure he understands that. Good luck.
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