02-06-2011, 08:53 PM
Join Date: Nov 2010
| | Re: Needs thank yous after dinner out.
I don't think it's an "us" issue at all. This is a discussion that my husband and I have had many times. I am the sole shopper, meal planner and cook in the house (in addition to working full time and taking care of the kids as a "single parent" 50% of the time as he works out of town). He takes me out to dinner maybe 4 times a year and every time, he expects a thank you, which I always say, usually as we're leaving the restaurant. Yet, the other 99% of the time when I cook a meal and serve him, he neglects to say thanks to me. I believe that my time cooking, planning and preparation (shopping for groceries) is worth at least a thank you.
That said, it sounds like negativity and poor communication are at the root of the issues you may have. I don't think wanting a "thank you" is really an issue unless you or he are feeling resentments over other things that come out in this.