Re: Soft Swap or couples play
Okay, appears I'm the only one that is actually speaking from experience.
Yes, I have done it with my husband.
And before anyone asks, since you've seen my previous threads, it was AFTER our sex life went into the toilet - it wasn't before and didn't cause it, other issues there that I'm still trying to work out.
We do have rules:
- Our home only (we live out in the middle of nowhere), we do not go to other people's homes.
- We get to know them, as much as possible via e-mail/photo's first.
- We set up the rules beforehand - what is allowed, with who, what is not allowed, etc., before we even make the date.
- It must be done with the both of us present, even if we're not participating - no solo time.
But we did not limit it to soft, we have done full swap. It did not cause us any lingering issues as we were both on board and had decided what we would/would not allow beforehand.
And surprisingly enough - we both enjoyed it.
Due to some medical and other issues, we have not participated since late fall of last year, but once those issues are resolved, I expect us to continue - it works for us, and lots of other couples, but not for everyone.
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