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I wanna throw this out there. My wife travels Monday - Friday pretty much every week. She goes the entire week without calling home to talk to our 3 and 6 year old. Lately she does not even call home at all. She will send text messages here and there. Is this normal for a spouse that travels? Any input is appreciated.
I don't travel, but I hate using the phone and do not feel "connected" to people when talking on them. However, I would make an effort to call my family if I was out of town for more than 2 days. Especially children.
Maybe just mention that the children ask about her, miss her, when she is gone and see if you guys can start a fun little bedtime routine or something that includes a goodnight convo with mommy. Even if she doesn't need the contact gently tell her that you and the kids do.
Here's my input.
Mom traveling 5 days a week is not appropriate for a mother with such young children. A phone call cannot even be considered proper mothering. Sorry to be so blunt.
Here's my input.
Mom traveling 5 days a week is not appropriate for a mother with such young children. A phone call cannot even be considered proper mothering. Sorry to be so blunt.
Not proper for a married woman either. Go check out Shamwows thread.
Certain disaster looming.
I travel for work and maybe it makes it easier to get through the week and focus on work instead of having your heart broken after she hangs up with her kids. It is so hard to travel for work and be a mom the guilt can be overwhelming. My kids are older now (11 and 14) and they understand better but it is still hard when you miss birthdays and events. And my husband (separated) makes it worse by accussing me of not calling enough. Try to talk to wife about this by saying "this must be really hard on you, is there a way I can make it easier" then broach the subject of how the kids would love to hear from her more while she is away. Now it could also be she's having an affair but that requires a whole different conversation. But what do you feel in your gut is going on?
I agree with chapparal-you MUST consider the possibility that she is a little preoccupied...
...with an OM.
Don't wanna sound like a jerk, but nine times out of ten, when a thread starts on this site about a traveling spouse, it always ends up the same-an affair.
I agree with chapparal-you MUST consider the possibility that she is a little preoccupied...
...with an OM.
Don't wanna sound like a jerk, but nine times out of ten, when a thread starts on this site about a traveling spouse, it always ends up the same-an affair.
I have to disagree F-102 I have been travelling for work for 8 years now and never once had an affair never even thought of it and my husband complains I don't call enough either, I'm busy working.
I wanna throw this out there. My wife travels Monday - Friday pretty much every week. She goes the entire week without calling home to talk to our 3 and 6 year old. Lately she does not even call home at all. She will send text messages here and there. Is this normal for a spouse that travels? Any input is appreciated.
Kind Regards!
I don't call alot when I travel... sometimes, the times are way off when I can talk, and when they are in bed, busy, getting ready for school or bed, having bathes etc.
I have to disagree F-102 I have been travelling for work for 8 years now and never once had an affair never even thought of it and my husband complains I don't call enough either, I'm busy working.
Me too... never ever.... when I travel, it is usually working many many hours trying to get done and come home!
I thought you said you were separated AllyM. Maybe there was no affair, but I am sure that being away a bunch had an affect on your marriage.
Would you say the same thing to a man? Sometimes, we do what we have to do... I'd love to have more options, but hey, somebody has to keep putting food on the table and a roof over our heads.
I wanna throw this out there. My wife travels Monday - Friday pretty much every week. She goes the entire week without calling home to talk to our 3 and 6 year old. Lately she does not even call home at all. She will send text messages here and there. Is this normal for a spouse that travels? Any input is appreciated.
Kind Regards!
I have to say that is horrible to not even call your children for a whole week!!! I do not travel for work, other than my daily 25 minute commute to my office, but even when I go to dinner after work with my husband, which is not very often, we are calling our daughter before she goes to bed.
And I'm sure it's tough on you to be on the only parent in the house with 2 small children. Do you ever get a break?
I travel for work and maybe it makes it easier to get through the week and focus on work instead of having your heart broken after she hangs up with her kids. It is so hard to travel for work and be a mom the guilt can be overwhelming. My kids are older now (11 and 14) and they understand better but it is still hard when you miss birthdays and events. And my husband (separated) makes it worse by accussing me of not calling enough. Try to talk to wife about this by saying "this must be really hard on you, is there a way I can make it easier" then broach the subject of how the kids would love to hear from her more while she is away. Now it could also be she's having an affair but that requires a whole different conversation. But what do you feel in your gut is going on?
Your response smacks of excusing this mom's terrible behavior. She hates to get her heart broken and not calling often makes it easier? On who? Her or the kids and husband? She is a self centered self absorbed woman that has divorced herself from mommyhood and she obviously puts her own selfish needs above the children's. She is a terrible mother and she should never have had children.
Lets stop the excusing, the coddling...it stinks :-(
Would you say the same thing to a man? Sometimes, we do what we have to do... I'd love to have more options, but hey, somebody has to keep putting food on the table and a roof over our heads.
I would say the same thing to a man, and shame on you for using being too busy to call home...you, your family, and I all know this is a lame excuse, and it is too bad your job takes a higher priority them your family.
I too travel and I am very, very busy, but I make time to chat with my family daily...if you really want to you could make the time.
Wife Travels - Never Calls To Talk To Kids 
I do not travel for work, other than my daily 25 minute commute to my office, but even when I go to dinner after work with my husband, which is not very often, we are calling our daughter before she goes to bed. 
