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Old 02-15-2011, 03:14 PM   #16 (permalink)
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mommabear, I'm not hear to judge or make it worse, but you have to be honest with yourself, if that woman have not told your husband you would never stopped doing that person, you tell yourself eventually you would, then it seems to me you are the person needs to work on yourself. you are just trying to make your husband forget like nothing happened ( direct his anger to something productive).
you are the person that needs to implement trust inside him, he has nothing to work on except seeing you trying hard.
may be if you told him you cheated without him finding out the other way things would went different way.
he believe that the only reason you stopped doing the other person because he caught you otherwise he would never find out.
by the way my other side of the family are Sicilian and from what I know about them cheating is a big taboo to the man, its embarrassing and the man cant face his family with a cheater wife, it went to a limit that men who their wives cheated would leave the city and never come back to it because of the reputation
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Old 02-15-2011, 05:48 PM   #17 (permalink)
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Mom,
I hope your H gets the point in that revenge is not a life to live and the legal battle would be hard on the whole family.

I feel I got my revenge, I got the girl. The last guy was dropped hard but I give my W credit for not responding to the many text he had sent after ward. Granted she could have used a pay phone but I have to believe I won.

I hope your H sees this in that he has won, I think this thing could have gone bad for him. You could have fallen for this guy or you still could be seeing him. Your not.. so I think he's won also.


This crap is so hurtful you both have your work cut out so help him heal and show him that he is the better man by giving your self back to him. I hope through your actions your H can get past the revenge thing.
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