02-16-2011, 05:57 AM
Join Date: Sep 2010
| | Re: No more Facebook?
I know exactly what you mean, because my husband was much the same way. His whole online persona was different...the jokes he told, the way he interacted with others...hard to describe but it definitely bothered me. In talking to him about it, he and I have both realized that was a way for him to temporarily escape from his real life where he saw himself as just boring middle-aged dad and husband....a far cry from the "cool" and "fun" guy he used to be. His whole facebook persona was really an attempt to get some of that " old self" back.
Unfortunately, in my case, being "cool" and "fun" led to his having cool, fun, and totally inappropriate chats with a young female coworker...which led to an eventual year-long EA....which led me to this forum.
Certainly, I'm not saying that's what's happening in your case. Are you clear on what, exactly, about this behavior is bothering you? He probably thinks it's harmless, so be prepared to explain to him how this is affecting your feelings and relationship.
Also, I probably wouldn't demand that he delete his account, because most people resent being told what to do. Perhaps he'd give you his password? Or maybe you could get an account, friend him, and not post anything...that wouldn't violate your privacy but would give you access to the stuff he's putting on his wall.
Good luck with whatever you decide.